The consciousness raising on this has been a major hurdle in how to thrive. flourish. Imagine hitting your head against the wall and wondering why your head always hurts. Not understanding the act and consequences. Just completely disconnected from the act and outcome.
Here I am – very late in life – finally understanding why I lived with a perpetual headache!
Funny. Someone I desperately wanted to work with years ago recently suggested I work with him “on contingency” re: “without pay”. I was able to tell him why I don’t do that – and why that was unacceptable. That being the case – he quickly corrected himself and said, “of course not – you’ve done very well for yourself” and I laugh and think – this man doesn’t value me. I don’t want to work with him at all!!! So even though he wanted a proposal – I told my staffer – we will give a proposal to a company I met with today – who does value me – and who told me – “money is not a concern. we want what you bring and will give you whatever you need to make it happen.”
That is who I want to work with!!!!! That is so incredibly cool!!! If I take contracts from those who undervalue my time and expertise – that steal me from those who do. They steal me from myself.
Too long in life I have done this.
Client A will never be a client. I am over my hero worship of that guy. FOREVER.
Client B – who is giving me a blank check to work with them – a whatever budget I need – is a blessing to me. They are living proof of this statement.
I may have learned my lesson – FINALLY!!!!
I may be done with this.
It has been 3 years to learn how to do this.
Very hard and painful lessons.
I think I get it.
And now I have the proof – over the past month. It has come to life.