Bill in IL until 7/21/2009

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Bill in IL until 7/21/2009's Life List

  1. 1. live authentically
    45 entries . 29 cheers
    51 people
  2. 2. become more worldly
    30 entries . 14 cheers
    5 people
  3. 3. resist temptation.
    38 entries . 12 cheers
    25 people
  4. 4. be a tourist in my own town
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    88 people
  5. 5. Post links to my sometimes foolish videos on YouTube
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    2 people
  6. 6. Do some productive work every day
    5 entries . 11 cheers
    1 person
  7. 7. Do something useful at the house each day I'm there
    7 entries . 1 cheer
    1 person
  8. 8. restore politeness, refinement, tact and other old-fashioned niceties
    3 entries . 27 cheers
    68 people
  9. 9. Share the idiosyncracies of small town southern life
    3 entries . 7 cheers
    2 people
  10. 10. quit taking life so friggin seriously
    10 entries . 24 cheers
    37 people
  11. 11. Photograph Another 43 Sunrises
    6 entries
    1 person
  12. 12. Photograph Another 43 Sunsets
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    1 person
  13. 13. Enjoy the wonders of modern air travel
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    1 person
  14. 14. Teach my son "E" to cook... since he axed me to
    10 entries . 14 cheers
    1 person
  15. 15. Work my way through "1000 Places To See Before You Die" and log the places I've already been
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    12 people
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    0 people
  17. 17. backpack through Europe
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    4,835 people
  18. 18. Cultivate an appreciation for foreign film
    2 entries . 4 cheers
    3 people
  19. 19. pay off my mortgage
    2 entries . 4 cheers
    372 people
  20. 20. watch the AFI Top 100 American movies
    1 entry
    359 people
  21. 21. NOT HAVE CANCER
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    7 people
  22. 22. For Girl in the Curl: Prayers for a full recovery & Wellness Energy
    1 entry
    18 people
  23. 23. read Shakespeare
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    55 people
  24. 24. Complete the 100 push ups program
    2 entries . 1 cheer
    14 people
  25. 25. 43 weird facts about myself
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    16 people
  26. 26. Have an awesomely different life by this time next year
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    123 people
  27. 27. lose 30 lbs
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    728 people
  28. 28. Run every day for 100 days in a row
    88 entries . 2 cheers
    5 people
  29. 29. Stop holding on to the things that clutter my home and my life
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    26 people
  30. 30. Live aboard a boat
    3 entries . 5 cheers
    6 people
  31. 31. Have a party for my little red car when it reaches 250,000 miles.
    4 entries . 3 cheers
    1 person
  32. 32. fix my whipped cream maker
    1 entry . 1 cheer
    1 person
  33. 33. Find a Hash House Harrieres group
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    1 person
  34. 34. 43Things Cookbook
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    9 people
  35. 35. Eat at Tavern on the Green
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    10 people
  36. 36. learn to fly a plane
    2 entries . 1 cheer
    1,028 people
Recent entries
live authentically (read all 45 entries…)
How long have I been talking and talking about this? 5 days ago

Today, 6/29/2009, I have finally put the package together to send to my attorney. The financial affidavits, the copies of past tax returns, the statements of retirement accounts.

I did mail it this week, and I HAVE an appointment for next week to review strategy and pay my $3000 retainer to the attorney who will prepare the divorce documents to file when I give the word.

It has been a “matter of when, not if” for some time now. I want to be done before the kids go off to college, and that is two years from now. I don’t want to start then.

It is time to get going.



Do something useful at the house each day I'm there (read all 7 entries…)
Did you want the furnace that ... 1 week ago

... will last 20 years?

three choices. $2500, $2650, or $3600.
are they kidding? Okay. Like every-freaking-body else, I chose the middle one.

The furnace blower stopped working, and fixing that ALONE would cost $650. The problem is the heat exchanger may be cracked, and that would mean Carbon Monoxide in the upstairs bedrooms.

Well, everyone else sleeps upstairs, and I would miss the boys. So, replacing the heat exchanger has to be factored in at $750.

That means $1400 in to a 13 year old furnace. Not smart. So, for $1200 more… you get the idea. I don’t like it. But a big house has big maintenance bills.

That is why I need to dramatically downsize.



live authentically (read all 45 entries…)
a talk with mrsbill 2 weeks ago

“What did you say to my father?”
- I told him what I’ve told you, that I don’t think we will stay married. I’ve been unhappy for a very long time, but waiting for the boys to be old enough.

“Who else have you told? I need to know so I will know if it’s coming back to me”
- I told your brother and sister, your dad, and the boys.

“Why do you want to have my family over here on Fathers’ Day?”
- because it’s Fathers’ Day and I like them. I’d like to have them over.
“We are going to (Sister in Law’s) house.”
- Does she know? Does your Dad know?
“It was (Sister in Law’s) job to invite people.

“You are doing the same thing with this marriage that you did with your first marriage. Talking too much.”
- (to myself … yes, last time I made a decision in about three weeks, but now there are kids. )

“I don’t want you talking to my family about this.”
- you can’t control who I speak to. (note: I know, I should have said, “You don’t get to decide to whom I speak.”)

“You’re not gone yet, and you shouldn’t be talking about this”
- no, I’m not gone yet.

notice: no indication that I am wrong, or that I’m completely missing her devotion and love and admiration of me.



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