Today, 6/29/2009, I have finally put the package together to send to my attorney. The financial affidavits, the copies of past tax returns, the statements of retirement accounts.
I did mail it this week, and I HAVE an appointment for next week to review strategy and pay my $3000 retainer to the attorney who will prepare the divorce documents to file when I give the word.
It has been a “matter of when, not if” for some time now. I want to be done before the kids go off to college, and that is two years from now. I don’t want to start then.
It is time to get going.
Jun 29, 03:12PM PDT | 6 cheers | 3 comments
... will last 20 years?
three choices. $2500, $2650, or $3600.
are they kidding? Okay. Like every-freaking-body else, I chose the middle one.
The furnace blower stopped working, and fixing that ALONE would cost $650. The problem is the heat exchanger may be cracked, and that would mean Carbon Monoxide in the upstairs bedrooms.
Well, everyone else sleeps upstairs, and I would miss the boys. So, replacing the heat exchanger has to be factored in at $750.
That means $1400 in to a 13 year old furnace. Not smart. So, for $1200 more… you get the idea. I don’t like it. But a big house has big maintenance bills.
That is why I need to dramatically downsize.
Jun 22, 09:00PM PDT | 3 cheers | 1 comment
“What did you say to my father?”
- I told him what I’ve told you, that I don’t think we will stay married. I’ve been unhappy for a very long time, but waiting for the boys to be old enough.
“Who else have you told? I need to know so I will know if it’s coming back to me”
- I told your brother and sister, your dad, and the boys.
“Why do you want to have my family over here on Fathers’ Day?”
- because it’s Fathers’ Day and I like them. I’d like to have them over.
“We are going to (Sister in Law’s) house.”
- Does she know? Does your Dad know?
“It was (Sister in Law’s) job to invite people.
“You are doing the same thing with this marriage that you did with your first marriage. Talking too much.”
- (to myself … yes, last time I made a decision in about three weeks, but now there are kids. )
“I don’t want you talking to my family about this.”
- you can’t control who I speak to. (note: I know, I should have said, “You don’t get to decide to whom I speak.”)
“You’re not gone yet, and you shouldn’t be talking about this”
- no, I’m not gone yet.
notice: no indication that I am wrong, or that I’m completely missing her devotion and love and admiration of me.
Jun 18, 04:52PM PDT | 1 cheer | 0 comments
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