Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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stop telling lies (read all 2 entries…)
How hard was it to admit...

...to this kind of goal. You fear that people will judge you for it, even if you are the most caring person in the world. Such a paradox (caring yet lying) but a liar doesn’t have to be a mean, selfish or bad person. They are most likely to be full of insecurities that they desperately need addressing.

I felt so conscious when I posted this entry more than a week ago but how good was that I did, because I need to be conscious of how I am feeling and what it is making me do (i.e. be secretive).

I’ve been working hard on sorting this problem out and this is an example. My boyfriend did not get a job interview where I work. When back at home that evening, my first, most immediate thought was that “I can’t tell him. It’ll be too painful. I physically cannot ‘give’ him that discomfort”. I was stunned to be aware of my thinking – this is what could have led me to lie, or say nothing at all to avoid telling the difficult truth. Ok, it is a trivial example, considering there can be worse lies, but I was glad I was suddenly aware of the thought process.

As I try to deal with this problem, I am working on being conscious of where and what the triggers are. It follows that I am seeing what the consequences are too.

Now, more than a week on since I posted this entry, I have already learnt a few things. 1. I need to grow myself a sturdier spine (stand up and trust your feelings!); 2. I can TRUST the people I love with my ‘secrets’ and feelings; 3. Truth will never let you down. Lies will always alienate you; 4. By lying, you will NOT protect the people you love or even yourself; they will only hurt even more.

It’s a long way to go still but I’m happier, and happy that I seem to have switched the light on at last.



simplify my life
Simplifying my life by...

- Being truthful, at all times
- Not overthinking
- Going with the flow
- Learning to stop, take it easy and take stock

They are all goals I’m going to be working on. Wouldn’t it be amazing to make life feel just that little bit easier. I know it is all up to me, I’m the one making it complicated but I’m really fed up with this now. Time to sort it out.



stop telling lies (read all 2 entries…)
Being honest

- I need to stop telling lies and fearing the truth will be too painful for people to hear
- I need to stop telling lies and believing this protects people (and me) from harm
- I need to stop telling lies and thinking that this will make people like me more

It started off with lying to protect myself, from bullying, from abuse, from my parents and being beaten up if I did something wrong. Then as I grew up, I saw it as ‘diplomacy’ – I thought I was doing a good deed, hiding people from the ‘horrible’ truth. And I lie to feel accepted – if people don’t get upset, I will not be cast aside or shouted at, so I play it ‘safe’ and tell a lie.

I need to take responsibility. I need to have courage to tell it like it is, exactly the way it is. You know where you stand with the truth and with the truth, people are ultimately always better off.

I have hurt my dearest Love, the love of my life, this way. I hope he can one day forgive me, trust me again. And I am now pledging to him, and to myself, that I am not going to lie anymore, for me, and for what I hope is still our future together.

So help me.




 

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