Cathain11

It seems that I am always going against what I want to do in order to accomodate others. I will rearrange my schedule, not do the things I want to do, not get things done I need to get done all because I don’t want to make anyone angry or hurt anyone’s feelings. What can I say? I’m “too nice.” Doing this is really starting to eat at my own happiness. Today, I’ve decided that I am going to try to say, “No” when I want to say no, and stop moving my schedule around to fit what other people want. This will not be easy for me as I’ve become quite the pushover, lately. In addition to being too nice, I am always a bit too empathetic toward other people’s feelings—and I neglect myself in the process of being understanding toward others. I want to be nice, yet assertive about my needs without having to justify myself. The only problem is . . . once you’ve let others push you around long enough, I’ve noticed they tend to get a little upset when you’re no longer accomodating. I want to meet my own needs without feeling guilty about it.