Realising the need to accept the past, rather than just trying to put it behind me, to forget it, is more likely to be achieved and more of a help to moving on positively than goals like ‘stop dwelling on the past’. Thoughts and regrets keep intruding into my mind every day, despite my best efforts, (although they are drastically reducing through blogging and quickly changing my thoughts to more constructive ones). Thinking ‘it doesn’t matter’, when dwelling yet again on ‘if only’ has helped me, and in the same way, accepting who I was then, what my circumstances were at that time, and why those decision were made is an extremely powerful tool to being positive and realistic about the past, and frees me from those dreaded circular thoughts that are an obstacle to building a fantastic future. This is the phrase I will try to remember when (alongside ‘it doesnt matter because…), “I accept my past”.
And look very much forwards with enthusiasm to my future!