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Keep a journal
Begun

Have begun a one sentence journal. A good beginning.



go to more gigs
Love it

I love live music. I’ve just got to do this more. Going to the falls festival at the end of the year, but why wait until then?



Compliment people on things they do well
I really like this one

It is so affirming to give good compliments. People love being given genuine praise. It is great to make a difference to people’s days by giving them a much-deserved boost.

Also, when you give praise (e.g. Sarah is very good listener), people remember those positive traits about you! So it’s also better for me to give praise.

Haven’t given any for the last few days, looking forward to giving some soon.



Consider consequences
Have some temperance

I need to think about everything I do – what will be the consequences of this action?

I’m pretty good at doing this at work, but it’s in the area of my health that I need to be most mindful.
What will it mean for me if I skip exercise today? Will I eat well in the rest of the day if I skip breakfast or lunch?
Is this a food choice I might regret in an hours time?



Fathom the intentions of others
This is hard

But I think it’s worthwhile.

Why did he do that?
Why did she say that?
What did he mean when he did that?

These questions are not worth ruminating on if they involve excessive introspection (e.g. I don’t think she likes me…), But if they illuminate what other people are feeling, intending, or thinking then it could be very powerful in helping me relate to them.



Make a daily agenda every morning.
This is easy, but...

It’s important now to follow this agenda!



listen without judging
I'm a good listener, but...

I can be a good listener. I am often show empathy, but this can be easy when you care about someone or what they’ve got to say.

Sometimes it’s hard to listen to other people without judging them. I’ve come to the opinion that judging other people is a futile, shallow exercise. So I will attempt to always listen to other people’s opinions, thoughts, feelings, stories without feeling like I need to judge them on their views or their behaviour.



See beauty and bask in it
Awe and wonder

I love nature, art, music, people, sports, literature, etc. It is essential to being the person I want to be that I can respond to these things with wonderment and awe; to bask in them.

I must never see beautiful things (objects, buildings, beaches, women) and feel as though I must possess them. Beauty is to be appreciated for its inherent worth, it is not mine to own.



be thankful
I will think about and write down some thoughts on gratitude every week

Grateful people are happier, less depressed, less stressed, and more satisfied with their lives and social relationships. Grateful people also have higher levels of control of their environments, personal growth, purpose in life, and self acceptance. Grateful people have more positive ways of coping with the difficulties they experience in life, being more likely to seek support from other people, reinterpret and grow from the experience, and spend more time planning how to deal with the problem. Grateful people are less likely to try to avoid a problem, deny there is a problem, blame themselves, or cope through substance use. Grateful people sleep better; they think less negative and more positive thoughts just before going to sleep.



step up
Be a leader

I think being a leader is about stepping up when required. This could be to lead a change, to model behaviour, to set an example or to encourage and nurture the performance of my colleagues or my peers.



get enough sleep (read all 2 entries…)
9 hours - is this too much?

Well, no. But it’s probably not realistic for days when I have to get up early and be on time for work. Feels good though.



Every Day, Make someone smile or laugh
Most days...

Do this in my job as a primary school teacher, which is heaps of fun and very rewarding. Would like to make some different people smile and laugh other than children and workmates.



Use a diary to plan ahead (read all 2 entries…)
Still using iCal

Haven’t forgotten an important meeting in ages! Am planning ahead better than ever!



ask someone out
Came close

Still working up the courage. I know I have to be brave, but it still feels very awkward and scary…



Use a diary to plan ahead (read all 2 entries…)
Booked in meeting for my masters

Using iCal. I’m sure there’s heaps of better diary/calender programs, but this one’s easily accessible on the dock on my Mac so it’s working well for now :)



be assertive
This is about being very clear about what I want

I am no pushover, but at the same time I am very good at saying yes to people, especially in the workplace.

For me being assertive means being very clear about what I want to do and pursuing these things with cheerful but tenacious purpose.

It means saying no when people ask me to do things that clearly don’t benefit my career, my class or my needs.



Learn to surf
Wow, this is a popular goal!

Lots of my goals seem almost unique, but it seems heaps of people want to do this one. I’ve always loved the beach, waves, swimming, body surfing, sun, sand, etc. I’ve never had the physique or the sense of balance to get on a board, but it’s time to put these blockers behind me.



get enough sleep (read all 2 entries…)
8.5 Hours

A nice big sleep. Just need to keep going. The key is to get this much sleep on nights where I have to get up early for work in the morning.



exercise before breakfast every day (read all 2 entries…)
Tick

I’m on holidays, so perhaps this is easier than it soon will be. Anyway, got over 8.5 hours sleep and woke up ready for exercise. Swam 1 km, now eating a very healthy breakfast with cereal, fruit and toast.

Feeling super healthy.



talk to strangers
A good beginning

At the pool this morning I got chatting to a complete stranger. This WWII veteran told me about how he was learning to swim, he talked about his 8 children (2 of which are deceased) and he delightedly told me about how he is going to Hawaii for his 87th birthday later this year.

It was great to talk to a stranger. What a fantastic fella!

This is the sort of skill my parents have always had, but I’ve never been able to master it. Feeling very proud of my first foray into this habit…



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