GodsChild2006

Since purchasing my home I have been working towards everything in my home having a place. A great book “Organizing from the Inside Out” has helped a lot. I have recommended the book to a couple of friends who have also found it very easy to apply. Apparently it’s an ongoing process once you have your organized system in place. So far I have done my living room, kitchen, daughter’s bedroom and my home office is almost complete.

I can honestly say that there is no one that I am not speaking to due to un-forgiveness. There were a couple of dear friends that I had stopped speaking to for a while over us being young and my being dumb, but I am glad to say that we are now rebuilding our friendships and it feels really good. In one instance I had to humble myself and put myself out there and in the other instance we are just gradually working our way back as if nothing had happened. I will eventually apologize to her for my stupidity in letting silly things come between a great friendship, when the time is right. But for now I’m just glad she is part of my life even if it’s just a small part for now.

I also forgave my Dad and I’m steadily building that relationship back, although it’s hard, not because I haven’t forgiven him, because I really have, but because I have functioned without him for 18 years of my 32 year life, I kind of forget I have a dad. I have to stay really conscious about calling him on his birthday and fathers day. I know that may sound funny, but my mum died when I was 19 and so I’ve kind of lived my life as if I didn’t have any parents, so to all of a sudden have one, takes some getting used to. But I’m working on it.

As far as my ex husband. I have defiantly forgiven him, I just don’t have the respect for him that I should, so he still irritates me…(lol), but I’m sure that will subside with time. I have forgiven him, which is a continual thing really. Some days I think about what a jerk he was and how lucky I am to be out of that, then I forgive him again and keep it moving.

I would definitely recommend this one. Life is too short.

Something came over me about a year after my divorce that it was time to own my own home, especially for my girls. Another huge factor was that I had been living in an apartment and within a couple of years my rent had gone from $745 to $900 per month and was due to go up to $980, which is almost a mortgage payment. As soon as I got my tax refund I figured instead of blowing it or having it dwindle to nothing, I would put it towards our future and within two months I had moved into my new town home! It’s modest but very well kept. The biggest plus is that it’s in an area that I thought I could never afford to purchase in, unless I won the lottery, but like most unaffordable places it had one of the best, if not the best school districts in Georgia. Public education in Georgia doesn’t have the best reputation, but my friend who teaches in the Alpharetta area, moved here from Boston and she says that most of the schools rival private schools. Thank you Jesus! I feel so fortunate and blessed.

There is something about owning your own home. Not having to wonder if rent is going to go up, whether you’re going to move, who your neighbors will be this year. Whether someone has been in your home while you were out (they were big on doing that in my apartment complex). The amount of times I just happened to be at home when I would hear the keys turning in my front door, only to be stopped by the Privacy Lock and to be told that they had a “maintenance request”, which would turn out to be a “mistake”. I hated that. I’m sure there were many times when I was not at home.

This is my home. No one comes in without my knowledge or consent. The girls can run and jump around without my having to stop them because of the neighbors downstairs. I remember when my youngest daughter was just learning to jump and had managed a few jumps and was beaming with pride, so pleased with herself and I had to tell her to stop because of the neighbors downstairs. My heart sank that my girls were missing out on doing the things that came naturally, like running and jumping and riding their bikes because we were surrounded by car lots. I knew then that I had to do something about it. Now they run around giggling, screaming and jumping to their hearts content – and I let them! =). I plan on getting our little section of yard fenced in so that they can play outside and we can get a little paddling pool for the summer. Have cookouts. I am so excited.

If you are reading this considering taking the plunge – DO IT! You will not regret it. One of my girlfriends used to always say that there is something about owning your own home, a feeling she could not explain. Now I fully understand what she means.