InTheForest

is trying to reach my goals!



Entries
Pages: 1 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12
Be more optimistic (read all 3 entries…)
Done?

I think I am so much more optimistic now but I’m afraid to mark it off my list just yet.



stop being co-dependent (read all 11 entries…)
Biggy!

I’m starting to think this might be an even bigger lesson to learn than I ever thought!



express my feelings & thoughts better (read all 15 entries…)
Marriage

I have taken this to heart in my marriage. I KNOW I have to express my feelings and not keep things bottled up. I have made a vow that I WILL NOT keep things to myself to avoid making my husband upset or uncomfortable. Sometimes it is so hard but every time I am successful it reinforces the fact that I need to keep it up. It always works out for the best when I am honest and express myself.



trust myself (read all 8 entries…)
Getting Better

I think I’m getting better it this. My intuition is good! I listen to it and ignore when other people change my mind.



Be myself (read all 16 entries…)
Husband Has Helped

My husband has helped me with this so much. He is the first person I have been around that I feel 100% comfortable being myself with.



learn to be happy alone (read all 4 entries…)
Things Change With Marriage

As soon as I became comfortable with being alone I found my soul mate! Now that I am married I think I have to come to terms with and be comfortable with that fact that being married does NOT insure that I will never be alone. Just because you are married doesn’t mean that person will always be there for you.



Learn how to make myself happy. (read all 9 entries…)
I've Learned A Lot

I think I have learned a lot of things that make me happy. Yoga is a huge thing that helps with this. I also notice I feel so much happier when I express my feelings and don’t keep things I need to say bottled up inside. But, I’m afraid to mark this off the list quite yet.



stop depending on others for my happiness (read all 8 entries…)
Better But Still Working

I think I’m doing better with this but now that I’m married I’m afraid I will depend on my husband too much for my happiness.



stop being afraid (read all 7 entries…)
It Got Better

It got better but now I’m afraid again. This time I’m afraid of new and different things.



keep the house cleaner (read all 8 entries…)
House Cleaner

I have hired a house cleaner! Does this count? I’m still not happy with my part so I’m keeping this on the list



stop being judgmental (read all 2 entries…)
We All Have Lessons

I read something the other day that REALLY helped me with this. It said we must allow people to make the mistakes they need to make in order to learn the lessons they are predestined to learn in their lives. I believe we all have lessons we are here to learn. So, it really helped me to think that when I see people doing stupid things that I feel the need to be judgmental about that I should instead look at it as the path they need to be on in their life to learn the lessons they are meant to learn. It really helps!



become more independent (read all 6 entries…)
Out Alone

In December I went out and met some friends at a restaurant/ bar/ reunion alone. I really didn’t have any anxiety about it at all. In fact I wanted to go alone. My mom was shocked. She said you’re going alone?? You sure have made progress! That made me feel proud!



make better friends (read all 10 entries…)
Crushed

I recently found out that this new friend I made who has done a lot for me is considering moving to another state. I was crushed!!! I’m trying hard to be at peace with the possibility of this happening because I know it could be good for her if this is what she decided to do but it will be a HUGE setback for me.



express my feelings & thoughts better (read all 15 entries…)
Made A Friend Mad

Nonviolent Communication By Marshall B. Rosenberg is a book that is helping me with this. It teaches you how to express your feelings and needs in a reasonable way. I expressed my feelings with a friend the other day. It wasn’t something she wanted to hear and she is mad at me now. But, I chose my words wisely and I don’t regret what I said. So, I am going to try to be at peace with myself about the situation. If she wants to be mad or feel anger about it that is her choice but I don’t have to take it on.



Improve my self-esteem (read all 5 entries…)
Mantra

I’ve been using a positive mantra to stop the negative things I say to myself in my head. It’s been helping. Ultimately I know I have to find it within myself to realize I’m a worthwhile person. I can’t draw my self worth from what other people think of me or how they treat me. Right now I think my self worth is dependent on others and it’s not working!



stop letting people treat me like crap (read all 5 entries…)
Self Esteem

I have to raise my self esteem before I can really do this successfully!



be more assertive (read all 11 entries…)
Nonviolent Communication By Marshall B. Rosenberg

I just finished reading the book Nonviolent Communication By Marshall B. Rosenberg. It is helping me a lot. Being assertive is so foreign to me that I often don’t know what words to use in order to express myself. This book gives a formula for expressing your feelings and needs in a nonviolent way. When you express your needs and wants using this formula it sounds so reasonable. It doesn’t sound rude or aggressive or inconsiderate at all. But, it is still a little bit uncomfortable for me. I think I don’t even feel like I have the right to assert myself. I have practiced using these words to assert myself in private just to hear the words out loud and feel comfortable with them. When I hear the words in my head they sound perfectly calm and appropriate but this little voice in my head is saying how dare you ask for what you want! I think I just need more practice. I highly recommend this book.



Be myself (read all 16 entries…)
Admitting To My Likes

I’m trying to get braver about admitting to the things I like or dislike in front of other people even if I think they won’t agree with me. I was talking to an old friend from high school the other day. I told her about a class I was talking that I was afraid she might think was weird or stupid. But, I decided I really liked my class and she asked what I had done that day. That was the highlight of my day and I wanted to share it. If she doesn’t like the things I’m interested or thinks they are dumb or doesn’t want to be my friend because of it then I can probably find some better friends. She didn’t say too much when I told her but she is still my friend so I guess it wasn’t a total bust! : )



live my life on my own terms, not trying to live up to the expectations of others (read all 2 entries…)
Focus On Myself.

I am trying really hard to stay focused on my life and MY reality and not getting so caught up in what everyone else thinks, needs, wants etc. I found out some really shocking information about my best friend a few months ago and she didn’t tell me about it for months. And during this whole time period I was going through a really difficult situation where I felt as if she was being very judgmental and here the whole time she had this crazy situation going on in her life that she didn’t share with me. I was worried about her judging me and my life and she was doing something 10x as crazy. That’s when it REALLY hit me that I have to stop worrying about what other people expect me to do. It all makes me think of something I heard Oprah say once. She was talking about when she was being sued by the cattle people in Texas. She was on the stand and the cattle lawyer was pointing his finger at her saying you did this and that and on and on. It suddenly struck her that the man could stand there and point his finger and say all these horrible things about her for as long as he wanted but it didn’t make it true! I think part of not trying to live up to other people’s expectations is not letting their judgments about your actions and behaviors effect you. And, as Oprah said, just because someone says something or thinks something about you that doesn’t make it true!



stop being a people pleaser (read all 8 entries…)
Untitled

I have come to realize that I will stop being so worried about making everyone else happy when I care about myself enough to make MYSELF happy. If I care about myself enough to make my well being number one priority then everyone else’s needs and wants will automatically fall lower on the totem pole.



Entries
Pages: 1 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12

 

43 Things Login