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This road has been a long one, sometimes painful but mostly pleasant.

There are many aspects to a personality and a label like this could not possibly begin to describe who I am.

I rather like to think of goth as part of my personal style (the truth is everyone’s is different and no goth is just the same- which is why none of us can agree on just what goth is) and one of my favorite genres of music and literature.

I can’t tell you if you’re a goth or not. I can’t give out a guide to “goth 101” or tell you how to be.

But if this is something you feel a connection to- and I mean a serious one, involving a true love for the lifestyle that sees beauty in things most people ignore or shun. An affinity for songs that have that sound that is both passionate and meaningful in ways that you identify with.

Let me start that one again.

If this is something you feel a connection to then by all means pursue it.

Keep in mind not to overdo things because you think that’s what goth is “supposed” to be. If you’re not comfortable walking out the house with a choker and heavy eyeliner, then don’t. It’s not just about physical appearance (although most people pride themselves in this and expect others to pay the same amount of zeal). This runs WAY deeper than makeup and clothes (not that these aren’t pleasing to indulge in), it’s about tolerance and open-mindedness. It’s about knowing that society at large will assume things and not caring about the immature nature of people.

It’s about being the way that makes you happy- but not in a way that would hurt or offend anybody.

Most of all, it’s a way to identify yourself in an attempt to find others with similar interests and tastes (because some of these things you would not bring up in a conversation with normal people).

But it’s different for everyone.

And everyone has a different view of it.

Above all things, respect lives, yourself, your family and the world. Don’t take yourself too seriously and don’t be easy to offend.

And one tip from Jillian Venters and her ever-flowing-fountain of wisdom: Friends don’t let friends dress like the crow.

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For any tips, advice, and anything pertaining to the above please, please, please contact me I would more than love to share my knowledge, experiences and tips. I also guarantee that if you ask me a question to which I have no answer I will do my utmost best to find resources for you.

When you know not to do something (like eating fast food and using pesticides and countless other things people do, even when they know the damage caused), chances are that you will consider choices before making them.

And although not everyone will use this knowledge, there will be those – like me- who will awaken from this mess of a reality and make the right choice (that is, the one that is good not only for my senses and self, but for my health and the health of others, and the environment, animals and plants, ecosystems and so on…)

It’s acknowledging that every being in this planet deserves to lead a happy healthy life.

It’s knowing that even the smallest of choices (such as giving up on ready-made foods) makes a difference in the big run.

People argue that not consuming certain products will take people’s jobs away, but I believe that investing in greener products and companies that do not use slaves (yes, slavery still exists- but most people wouldn’t be AWARE of this now would they?) or underpay/overwork their employees contributes in jobs that not only are clean to the planet (non-polluting) but also in more humane treatment of those human beings that make these products possible.

In other words, invest in the earth-friendly, animal and human friendly business, not the chemical-filled genetically-engineered antibiotic-fed slave and slave-like for millionaire businessmen laborer business.

And this isn’t even scratching the surface of the putrid truth behind the corporate world so many people defend without knowing what it is that really is happening.

Or what they’d like you to think the norm is.

I’ve been taking steps, but they’re baby steps.

I’ll keep chugging along until this goal is met.