Jessica

I had so many toxic relationships in my life I didn’t even know it until I removed myself from them. Many of them were family, a few were friends. These relationships were so toxic that I became toxic. For example, gossiping was a big one, I used to feel like “oh well it’s between friends so it’s not really gossiping”.... it was. It doesn’t matter if it’s a close friend or a group of people if it’s a discussion to put a person down and down their decisions or opinion in a VERY malicious way, that’s gossip. Once I removed myself all types of gossip about me surfaced and it was things that I have done in my life, things I would not have shared with the world. So I have been judged by things I’ve done and you know what ? I feel like it’s my penance, it’s my karma because I did the same exact thing with “friends” and family. I remember when I would have a gossip session with my friend and then see the person we talked about I would feel SOO gross, like I needed to take a bath or I needed to brush my teeth. Since these relationships ended I have not had those feelings and I find myself in good moods much more often !!

The easiest way to be happily married is put one another FIRST. Not after friends,family NO ONE! This is my second marriage and I vowed my husband & I would not make that mistake like in my first marriage. My husband made it very easy for me because I have always been first with him and it was natural for me. A couple of friends were lost and I was and am SO ok with it, those relatioships should have ended years ago, but I am now surrounded by like minded couples and it’s great !! I would scream this to every married couple as they are walking down the aisle !! My husband and I are thedefinition of what a team really is !! ( ;

I actually have to think about an answer when I am asked this question !! I have to do better !!