KLR1980




I'm doing 22 things
 

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  1. 1. Pay off my credit card and seek complete financial independence
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  2. 2. Stop getting so stressed at every little thing, but know that it is O.K to get stressed.....I need to accept that this is who I am, and THIS IS O.K.
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  3. 3. Become a more friendly, approachable person. I'm quite shy when I don't know someone, so I want to make new friends.
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  4. 4. Cherish my friends more than I do; keep in touch with them and make more of an effort.
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  5. 5. Do the right thing by people.
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  6. 6. swim in the ocean at night
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  7. 7. stop feeling guilty for leading my own life
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  8. 8. show up at the airport with a bag and a passport and take the first flight available
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  9. 9. own and decorate my own house
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  10. 10. Stop apologising for being me
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  11. 11. Be more assertive, without seeming like a bitch!
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  12. 12. Learn that you can please some people sometimes, but you can't please all the people all the time.
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  13. 13. Start to exercise - I need to find the motivation from somewhere!
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  14. 14. Travel the world - if I don't do it soon, I never will. New York, Jamaica, Canada, Australia, Singapore, South Africa, Hawaii, South America, New Zealand.....and more.
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  15. 15. Learn how to drive. I SOOOO need to do this! 2009 is the year!
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  16. 16. Successfully pass all of my qualified accountancy exams.
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  17. 17. Buy more clothes! This is really odd, but for some reason, I rarely buy anything for myself.......it's O.K to treat yourself isn't it?!!!!
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  18. 18. Have really healthy hair and grow it long (I have afro hair, so this isn't as easy as it seems!)
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  19. 19. Buy my first house or apartment.
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  20. 20. Laze on a beautiful beach, looking out to sea, achieving perfect calmness and have that split second perfect moment.
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  21. 21. Work with dogs - maybe volunteer.
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  22. 22. buy more shoes
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How I did it
How to not get taken for a mug by a man again. That one experience was enough.
It took me
1 year
It made me
Absolutely ecstatic


Recent entries
Not get taken for a mug by a man again. That one experience was enough.
It really was. 11 months ago

I went out with a guy for only 9 months, but he was still in my life for a year after that. The reason for this is that after I fell out of love with him, I still felt sorry for him, like he deserved to have someone in his life who cared about him, since many did not.

Now I realise why!

I have never met such a selfish person, who seems to think that because he grew up in the streets of New York, and because his family are Italian, that I OWE him something! This is despite that I have selflessly leant him over £600, of which I still haven’t received after nearly 2 years.

This relates to an iPod thet HE wanted, and that he SAID he’d pay me back for, but never actually DID (he never actually did much to be fair), paying for his rent when he had no money, buying him food, paying for a hotel…...yeah, this all coming from a Italian New Yorker, who believes that he should be the manly one and look after his shit!!!

I’d rather be single than have that poor excuse of a “man”.

This coming from a person who has never once done anything for me (apart from teaching me the street code according to him…...yes, that is exactly what I need to keep a roof over my head and food on my table in the cruel streets of suburban Reading, UK!!!!!), yet still has the audacity to treat me like I’m his bitch, or that he has a right to just take what he wants from me.

On 19 December 2008, he came to see me, as if he had done nothing wrong, and to “see if I was alright”.

So it had completely escaped him that I had actually been looking after myself and coping very well without his sorry ass for nearly 29 years – I hadn’t seen him for 3 months (which was absolute bliss!!!!) and he thought that he would take it upon himself to check if I was O.K? What a joke!

I flipped and gave him a peice of my mind, in an Oscar winning performance, which he was not expecting. The look on his face says it all, and I think that’s the look I’ll remember for the longest time.

I don’t see why I should be taken for a mug. I’m a good person, have a good nature, and would have actually have been quite loyal, if I hadn’t found out that you had hurt people, and got someone else pregnant.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing. Breaking up with me was the best thing he could have done, because I’ve ended up stronger for it, and he’s lost possibly the only person on this planet who REALLY gave a shit.

The shutters have come down now, and I’ve stopped feeling guilty for not caring…..I’ve done my bit, and I can’t do any more if he can’t be arsed to man up, and help himself.

I don’t think that all men are like that, but a lot of them just don’t have a clue. My world revolves around me, and my hopes, dreams and achievements, not around you! But if you treat me with the respect I deserve, you’ll find that you soon have a loyal companion that will think the world revolves around you too!

I don’t see where the difficulty in that lesson is! And blokes bang on about women being stupid, not being able to drive and stupid shit like that? LOL, if it’s that easy son, how come you can’t be a decent man?!!

Ah well, onwards and upwards. But the next guy’s got another thing coming if he thinks he can pull a fast one like that!!! Ha ha ha.




 

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