that a beetle is happy in its matchbox until you take it out. Once you take it out it doesn’t want to go back in.
I believe this was an interesting analogy for people outgrowing their relationships and their lives and going through new experiences. For instance a housewife who has spent the last 18 years devoted to her husband and children suddenly starts a new job or takes a course. I started to wonder what my matchbox is or has been in the past? Am i allowing myself to become trapped by my past experiences and fears? I believe I am and its about time I started pushing myself.
Jun 09, 2007, 06:49AM PDT | 2 cheers | 0 comments
Part of me wants to get married to someone from the same country and region as me and buy a house and have kids with them because that is what I always assumed would happen to me. Whilst another part of me wants to go and live a different life abroad and ‘start afresh’. The main appeal in the latter choice is the possibility that I will be so occupied with facing new challenges so much that I would be able to put the past behind me. I feel that I am letting my past hold me back from living my life to the fullest. The main turn off with the former choice is the fear that I will bring children into this world and then disrupt their lives if the marriage is unsuccessful.
I think i might ‘road test’ a life abroad by taking ‘a gap year’ and seeing if life in that country is really for me. If it doesn’t work out I can always come back and settle for tradition and routine.
wish me luck!
Jun 09, 2007, 04:47AM PDT | 1 cheer | 2 comments
Eveytime something bad happens to a friend or family member (usually a death) my typical reaction is to say nothing or do nothing about the subject and avoid talking about it or seeing them for the duration of that period.
I really hate myself for this. this is one of my worst sins.
If I can’t get rid of the problem or do something to stop their pain I feel powerless. Sometimes I feel like I’m not really the person that they want to talk to about this simply because there are other people who are much closer to them or know them better than me. And in any case what could i possibly say that would make them feel better? the only thing i can think of is ‘sorry’. why am i so useless at this and how can i possibly improve or make amends?
Jun 09, 2007, 03:29AM PDT | 1 comment
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