Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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You’ll probably never fully or capably understand the need for equality until you are a member of a discriminated-against class of people.

One exception to this rule may occur when you love someone who is a member of a discriminated-against class.

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What Have You Done?

I’m happy for you for all you’ve acquired, and all the clever ways you’ve acquired them.

I’m happy for all you’ve accomplished. I’m happy for all the places you’ve been and the people you’ve met.

I’m happy for all the wealth you’ve acquired for yourself and your family.

I’m happy for you for all the competitions you’ve won and the competitors you’ve beaten and surpassed.

But if your narrative doesn’t easily show how you’re helping others, I’m probably going to notice that.

Other people probably will also.

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People Pleasing

Do you want to know the difference between pleasing others and helping others?

Do you like knowing you were pleasing or helpful to others?

I have often been a person who pleases others.

I have made people laugh, cry, and sing. I’ve filled people with dramatic worry, anticipation, and joyous fruition.

I enjoy receiving clear feedback from others that I’ve pleased them.

I miss the times in my past when I was in the quid pro quo of giving and receiving pleasure.

These days, I don’t spend as much time pleasing others.

It’s important to understand the distinction between pleasing others and helping others.

Many people don’t like to be helped. To be “helped,” is to have needed the assitance of someone else. Many people want to be pleased. Fewer want “help.”

Often, people resent being helped. They’d prefer to be able to do things on their own. They sometimes want to be able to say “I did it my way” more than they want to achieve their objectives. Many people still insist on doing things their own way. Their pride prefers inferior results over conceding to others’ assistance. We are a proud species.

I like helping people fine, but I don’t pursue it much, for the reasons mentioned above.

In the rare cases where you can figure out how to please someone and help them, without them resenting it too much, that’s quite a thrill and quite a skill.

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