I'm doing 26 things
Although I have been accepted, I have not been able to get funding that would allow me to make this dream a reality. I am really really TORN about this—I really feel that this is something I need to do if i am ever going to get out of the shit jobs in “administration” and into the career I have been wanting since I got my second degree… but I don’t want to drown myself, my family, or my future in student loan debt forever either. I am waiting to hear from the student loans department about if I can get assistance… I can’t get assistance from my company, and I can’t do it with what I have now (especially since despite the boy living with me, he isn’t helping out around here at all and won’t be until he gets a better job)...
Pam Burnham's Life List
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1. take bellydancing lessons
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2. Visit Italy
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3. be more social
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4. Travel to Ireland
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5. pay off my debts (other than mortgage)
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6. go to europe
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7. try a food from another country every month
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8. visit every province and territory in Canada.
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9. Have a job I love
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10. Take a road trip to the ocean with the kids
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11. move to an acreage
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12. Visit Australia
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13. start a photo journal - take at least a photo a day to represent my life
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14. get a masters degree
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15. walk a labyrinth
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16. Fill a blank book with art journaling
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17. learn gaelic
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18. learn yoga
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19. eat healthier
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20. learn to connect with my kids
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21. keep a journal
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22. create my own tarot deck
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23. go to Rome
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24. create without worry
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25. take a trip on a train
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26. take my new husband's name
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How I did it
It made me
Happy Happy Joy Joy 
How I did it: The only way we did it was to PLAN. We started out by getting information from every source that we could -- Disney Vacation Planning DVD, Disney Parks online, people who had gone to Disney World before, travel agents, online travel booking sources... We picked what aspects of the vacation were most important to us, set a budget accordingly, and started saving a bit each month.It took 3 years to get to it -- because a divorce, debt repaym… Read how I did it…
It made me
Uncertain 
How I did it: I learned that because I just ASSUMED my soon-to-be ex's name when we married, I had never really, truely, LEGALLY changed my name -- that I could easily CHOOSE to go back to my maiden name whenever I wanted to. I got in contact with the issuers of my photo id, and they were easily able to reissue my ID in my maiden name, given that I have a copy of my original birth certificate. From the day I learned of this to the day I got my ID was o… Read how I did it…
It made me
Alive
How I did it: Time... and the help of good friends. I allowed myself to GRIEVE over the things I had lost and the mistakes I had made, and I cut out people in my life that were really REALLY just reinforcing my self-hate. When I replaced the people who were purposely TRYING to keep me down, and realized that the people who were helping me up were right and that I hadn't done ANYTHING that couldn't be forgiven, I just forgave myself and took the time to… Read how I did it…
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Recent entries
I went in for the reversal Thursday Sept 15, 2011. My surgeon/obstetrician/gynecologist who did the surgery said that when he checked (laproscopically) the tubes there was “plenty” of healthy tube available to reattach. They then cut open my c-section scar and microscopically reattached the ends of the tubes. He feels that since the tubes were open and healthy (other than the filchy clamps that they cut off) I have a good chance of recovering my natural fertility!
I go in for my surgery on Sept 15, 2011! I know that a lot of people do not understand why i want this (i may or may not have another child) but to me it represents the last literal “tie” of control that my ex husband has over my life choices.
