I'm doing 37 things
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4 weeks ago
This was my “freedom” gift to myself for getting out of a negative and abusive marriage, a form of taking back a bit of myself and doing what I need to do to be more authentically ME.
Pam Burnham's Life List
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1. Fill a blank book
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2. walk a labyrinth
1 cheer73 people -
3. Do NaNoWriMo
606 people -
4. get a masters degree
2,961 people -
5. start a photo journal - take at least a photo a day to represent my life
963 people -
6. Practice Wicca more
66 people -
7. take LB2 and Power Communications
1 person -
8. buy my OWN home on my OWN terms
1 person -
9. Visit Italy
2,346 people -
10. go to World Con
1 person -
11. be more social
5,083 people -
12. simplify my life
1 entry1,144 people -
13. make friends
1 cheer1,747 people -
14. Love again
134 people -
15. take bellydancing lessons
1 cheer18 people -
16. Travel to Ireland
580 people -
17. create a home altar
1 entry1 person -
18. take karate
12 people -
19. finalize my divorce
68 people -
20. learn to sew
3,632 people -
21. be consistently creative
3 people -
22. learn gaelic
593 people -
23. get a passport
1,751 people -
24. learn yoga
2,317 people -
25. sew a quilt
131 people -
26. eat healthier
10,100 people -
27. take my kids to Disneyworld
54 people -
28. create a cross stitch pattern and sell it
1 person -
29. learn to connect with my kids
1 person -
30. go to Rome
307 people -
31. create without worry
1 person -
32. take a trip on a train
24 people -
33. learn the Irish language
28 people -
34. keep a journal
1 cheer3,013 people -
35. make love under the stars
474 people -
36. pose nude
417 people -
37. create my own tarot deck
3 cheers3 people
How I did it
It made me
Uncertain 
How I did it: I learned that because I just ASSUMED my soon-to-be ex's name when we married, I had never really, truely, LEGALLY changed my name -- that I could easily CHOOSE to go back to my maiden name whenever I wanted to. I got in contact with the issuers of my photo id, and they were easily able to reissue my ID in my maiden name, given that I have a copy of my original birth certificate. From the day I learned of this to the day I got my ID was o… Read how I did it…
It made me
Alive 
How I did it: Time... and the help of good friends. I allowed myself to GRIEVE over the things I had lost and the mistakes I had made, and I cut out people in my life that were really REALLY just reinforcing my self-hate. When I replaced the people who were purposely TRYING to keep me down, and realized that the people who were helping me up were right and that I hadn't done ANYTHING that couldn't be forgiven, I just forgave myself and took the time to… Read how I did it…
Recent entries
I made a bedroom altar
2 months ago
I am working on doing this, as time goes on. I have made an altar in my bedroom, and I have started to set aside space for each of my children to create altars, if they want, in their own rooms. But as for putting things in a centralized location, I’m still not so sure about that. I don’t like to be all “OUT THERE” with my beliefs, and I don’t like the idea of the cats knocking things over in the living room, or of friends’ of the kids touching or knocking over altar items that might be in plain site. The boyfriend’s daughter already took it upon herself to touch things on my personal altar and destroy a set of Pagan Prayer Beads that I had made and left on my altar.
I may modify this to be more about having a personal altar SOMEWEHRE In my home.
Start to "pare down"
9 months ago
For the last little while I have been frustrated in my life. I feel, honestly, OVERWHELMED by my life - kids, work, home, finances - and I need to get control over it.
I am going to:
1. declutter… I am goign through my house getting rid of things that I no longer need or want, donating what I can and passing on anything that someone else might find useful.
2. Creating a budget (which scares me)
3. NOT buying things I don’t need—because I have a LOT of stuff I can use and I don’t need MORE just to feel that need in my life.
4. Creating meal plans so that we don’t go out for meals so often
