I'm doing 36 things
I left my husband in 2007.
I have been struggling to get my lawyer to take my case seriously.
Paperwork SHOULD have been done up May 2009. Lawyer told me in August 2009 that he didn’t realize he was required to do it and suggested I do the paperwork myself, despite admiting that since my ex was such a jerk over and over and made things so difficult over and over that I would need a lawyer to complete it.
The agreement all 4 of us had was that MY LAWYER was to do the paperwork.
Still waiting for the papers to be filed. Every contact with my lawyer is that he only needs “one more thing” and then he can file… its been over a month since the last promise and the papers are still unfiled.
I have now had to write to the senior partner above him regarding how he has not treated me or my concerns in a professional or respectful way.
Pam Burnham's Life List
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1. Fill a blank book
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2. Do NaNoWriMo
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3. get a masters degree
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4. start a photo journal - take at least a photo a day to represent my life
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5. Practice Wicca more
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6. take LB2 and Power Communications
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7. buy my OWN home on my OWN terms
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8. Visit Italy
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9. go to World Con
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10. be more social
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11. simplify my life
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12. make friends
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13. Love again
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14. take bellydancing lessons
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15. Travel to Ireland
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16. create a home altar
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17. create my own tarot deck
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18. walk a labyrinth
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19. take karate
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20. be consistently creative
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21. learn gaelic
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22. get a passport
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23. learn yoga
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24. sew a quilt
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25. eat healthier
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26. take my kids to Disneyworld
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27. create a cross stitch pattern and sell it
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28. learn to connect with my kids
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29. go to Rome
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30. create without worry
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31. take a trip on a train
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32. keep a journal
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33. make love under the stars
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34. pose nude
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35. learn to sew
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36. finalize my divorce
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How I did it: I learned that because I just ASSUMED my soon-to-be ex's name when we married, I had never really, truely, LEGALLY changed my name -- that I could easily CHOOSE to go back to my maiden name whenever I wanted to. I got in contact with the issuers of my photo id, and they were easily able to reissue my ID in my maiden name, given that I have a copy of my original birth certificate. From the day I learned of this to the day I got my ID was o… Read how I did it…
How I did it: Time... and the help of good friends. I allowed myself to GRIEVE over the things I had lost and the mistakes I had made, and I cut out people in my life that were really REALLY just reinforcing my self-hate. When I replaced the people who were purposely TRYING to keep me down, and realized that the people who were helping me up were right and that I hadn't done ANYTHING that couldn't be forgiven, I just forgave myself and took the time to… Read how I did it…
This was my “freedom” gift to myself for getting out of a negative and abusive marriage, a form of taking back a bit of myself and doing what I need to do to be more authentically ME.
I am working on doing this, as time goes on. I have made an altar in my bedroom, and I have started to set aside space for each of my children to create altars, if they want, in their own rooms. But as for putting things in a centralized location, I’m still not so sure about that. I don’t like to be all “OUT THERE” with my beliefs, and I don’t like the idea of the cats knocking things over in the living room, or of friends’ of the kids touching or knocking over altar items that might be in plain site. The boyfriend’s daughter already took it upon herself to touch things on my personal altar and destroy a set of Pagan Prayer Beads that I had made and left on my altar.
I may modify this to be more about having a personal altar SOMEWEHRE In my home.
