Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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Bid a fond farewell to this site in the old style (read all 3 entries…)
Too much, not enough

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As we get down to our final entries, I feel caught. My mind buzzes with unsaid things wanting to burst out and then goes blank at the same time. I’ve said a lot of it already, and if I haven’t then others have said it more eloquently. Weave it all together and we have a big, mutual web to wrap ourselves in for these last few hours. I’m glad so many people are stopping by today.

I found 43Things in 2006 (while chasing a PostSecrets link), got deliciously distracted by what was happening here, and never left. So much has happened in the years since, too much to go over in the little time left.

This has been so many things to me – a change catalyst, a support system, a creative outlet, a positive distraction, an ocean of information, an immeasurable network of feedback and friendship… some of my brightest and darkest times have been weathered across screens here. It felt like home. You feel like a huge, diverse, amazing extended family. It’s hard to believe this is really the end.

Again, thank-you so very much. I will do my very best to pick up and carry on elsewhere, but I know it won’t be the same.

And now, some music as the lights go down…

Ha! Made it to 43 before time ran out!



Those Were The Days – Bunker style

Tom Waits – Hold On

Nancy Sinatra – Bang Bang

Echo and the Bunnymen – Bring on The Dancing Horses

Arcade Fire – Reflektor

Siouxsie & The Banshees – Cities In Dust

Rocky Horror Picture Show – Don’t Dream It, Be It

David Bowie – Ashes To Ashes

Talking Heads – Burning Down the House

The Muppets: Stand By Me

Soft Cell – Say Hello, Wave Goodbye

The Cure – Lovesong

This Mortal Coil – Song to the Siren

Radiohead – Street Spirit

Dolly Parton – I Will Always Love You

ABBA – Knowing Me Knowing You

Rone – Bye Bye Macadam

Crowded House – Don’t Dream It’s Over

Nina Hagen – Somewhere over the Rainbow

björk – Hyperballad

Cyndi Lauper – Time After Time

Depeche Mode – Everything Counts

David Bowie – Changes

Elvis Presley – It’s Over

The Cranberries – I Can’t Be With You

Patti Smith – Pissing In A River

16 Horsepower – Splinters

PJ Harvey – Shame

Moon River – Audrey Hepburn

The Smashing Pumpkins – Tonight, Tonight

Peter Murphy – Cuts You Up

The Beatles – Hello Goodbye

The Doors – The End

The Cramps – I Can’t Hardly Stand It

The Killers – Exitlude

Leonard Cohen – Closing Time

Those Were The Days – Mary Hopkin

Nina Simone – After you’ve gone

The Velvet Underground – All Tomorrow’s Parties

Billie Holiday – I’‘ll be Seeing You

Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds – The Ship Song

Dead Can Dance – Sanvean

So Long Farewell



This was real.
I love you all.
I hope we meet again.


be a good mother (read all 106 entries…)
I carry your hearts (I carry them in my heart)

I’d say this is my most important goal here (both to myself and as the most heavily cheered), and one I’ll continue to the best of my abilities for as long as I’m alive.

When I first came to 43Things, this was one of the very first things I listed, and this was one of my first entries. Isak was a tiny baby and I was finding my footing as a new mom, but I’m still behind everything I wrote back then, which now goes for Iris too.

So much has happened since those early days – I’ve learned so much, made lots of mistakes along the way (and probably been too hard on myself for them), we’ve all grown and had adventures, accomplishments, scares, scars, celebrations, hysterical laughter, exquisite messes, and the odd tantrum.

We’re trying to load up on unconditional love, diverse experiences, open communication, stories, games, knowledge, creativity, and lots of unstructured play, as well as the discipline, stability, safety etc. needed for a good balance.

We’ve juggled our constantly changing family dynamics and I’ve had my heart expand in ways I didn’t think were possible. Life is a daily adventure and it’s lovely seeing things through their eyes, sharing things they don’t know (and vise versa), and being fortunate enough to be so involved in their lives.

The kids have grown up on this site, and it feels like it’s gone so fast. Isak has gone from a wee infant to a truly wonderful, warmhearted, creative young man. I feel blessed that at 9 he’s still so affectionate and keen on talking and doing things together.

Iris was just a dream on a tricky and sometimes devastating road that ran straight through 43Things the whole way. She was a deep hope that finally sparked a positive test that grew into shared ultrasounds and being welcomed into the world. Now she’s three and fearless – running around in pigtails; full of laughter and fire. I’m glad to have shared this part of our lives here.

Thanks to those of you who shared sage advice (or just listened) and sent such gloriously random things (postcards, books, games, distant treats, handmade bits and bobs) that have expanded their horizons, fueled their imaginations.

I can’t express how badly I want to raise happy, healthy, productive, compassionate, wonderful people with shiny moral compasses. I hope when I’m gone (hopefully a long, long time from now) they’ll remember me as a good mom that helped to fuel happy, loving childhoods. I love them both so much it hurts.

Such a difficult and gorgeous adventure, parenthood. I love it from the bottom of my disheveled but constantly overflowing heart.



find at least one thing each day that makes me happy and record it everyday for a year (read all 2076 entries…)
One of my favorite goals…

This one stoked my creative fire, opened my eyes to joy in dark days, sent me on treasure hunts in hard times, sent me hurtling towards bliss with open arms during the good, and did much to inspire perspective shifts and the slow . savoring . of . moments.

From the first day in September ‘07 to my last post this year (funny, both featured umbrellas), I thoroughly enjoyed this one. I did get behind, and tried valiantly to catch-up, but we’re now out of time to do that here. I still have all my joynotes and hope to catch up somehow, somewhere (over the rainbow).

It was a daily delight to read everyone’s entries flowing through this goal – it was contagious and inspiring and eye opening to other lives and the happiness found there.

Thank you everyone for sharing so many happy and gratitude drenched pieces of yourselves.



August Bootcamp 2014: Wish It, Dream It, Do It! (read all 2 entries…)
Taking off the last boot (with a wish in one hand and a dream in the other)

Other than a few remaining entries and a final re-mirroring after the site goes static, I’m as done as time is going to allow. With the end now in sight, I’m bidding our final bootcamp a fond farewell and slipping into comfy socks in anticipation of the big freeze.

I hope to find suitable boots and familiar faces in other places.

Don’t dream it… be it!



complete project 365 (read all 226 entries…)
Eulogy

Day 226: August 14

Last one here… such a fun project, I’m currently at 61%, and will be continuing at the 365Project site.



love (read all 34 entries…)
Bottomless heart

I have so much gratitude for all the love in my life, both given and received – from my dearest M, our beautiful children, all the branches in the family forest, dear, dear friends (both still here and the ones that have left warm echoes behind them), people in real life and on the other side of the windows of the screen… my heart feels brilliantly sated.

I love my life, I love this planet and the people on it, and I love 43Things as well… it’s hard to let go. What’s that childhood song about the magic penny? I want love to roll all over the floor too, and even if this site is being taken out of our hands rather than given willingly, I’m sending all my love out the door with it.



do first things first (read all 975 entries…)
Final list, final day

Because I don’t know when the site is freezing, I’ve been aiming at today for my last entries and farewells, but today has come too quickly – there’s so much I still want to do and say. Life moves like this though, so why should today be any different.

Today I’ll do what I can, say what I can, and there it will be. This site will freeze and linger for a while, and life will go on. I’ll spread my wings as far as I can, and embrace life all for as long as it’s possible to do so. I’m glad to have spent so many years of it connected to this place and the people here. Much love to you all, always.

Main focus today: End-of-the-road fragments, say goodbye…


۞  Daily

  • Health: Body test, exercise, water, vitamins, sleep
  • Home: Dishes, garbage, recycling, flylady mission, sort/declutter
  • Happiness: Joynotes, catch-up entries, mindfulness, photos, me time
  • Summer learning: Khan Academy, summer journal, summer reading club, Starfall
  • Relationships: Connect w/3 friends, family game/adventure, read w/kids, downtime w/M


۞  New

  • Flylady Mission of the Day: Tidy + replenish the bathroom
  • Answer + resave private messages
  • Continue final entries
  • Say goodbye
  • Exhale √ – Heading to the bath with a cold, rocky Kraken and coke. Sigh.


۞  Repeat

  • Bedtime reading with Isak: Continue When You Reach Me 
  • Watch/delete DVR: 1 hour
  • Khan Academy
  • Potty practice
  • Music!
  • Read
  • 365


۞  Recycled

  • Message re. mortgage tweaking


۞  Queued

  • Hang bedroom mirror
  • New doorbell

Ah yes, that mirror. Something for the future days. It will rise.



complete project 365 (read all 226 entries…)
The cat came back

Day 225: August 13



deal with this (read all 39 entries…)
The hands we’re dealt

While I haven’t specifically written anything under this goal for a few years now, I’ve worked on it and alluded to it elsewhere. I’ve quietly mourned or celebrated, paused for anniversaries and birthdays, moving forward bit by bit this whole time.

The memorial bookcrossing goal has been wonderfully healing, as has having a window into his daughter’s life as she grows into a lovely young woman – I still wish more than anything he had known about her, but I’ll always be overwhelmingly glad she contacted me, I see so much of him in her.

In dealing with Paulie’s death, one of the things I feel helped me the most was writing out some of what I was going through here and all the support that I received, both publicly and privately. Thank-you so much for that – for listening and sharing. Not just with his death, there were other losses and dark times during my time here too – but this was a huge black hole to somehow get to the other side of. It taught me so much about friendship and grief and people and about living life; appreciating the time we have here.

It’s hard to see his profile here disappear, those dreams he never accomplished because he wasn’t here long enough to do so, or the ones he accomplished without even knowing it. It spurs me on though. It fires up the passion to split atoms and kick stones.

I’ve dealt with this, but he’ll always be missed and remembered dearly.

So a final cheer to you, old friend. I wish we could someday sit back old and grey and talk about the shiny old days of poets and pasties and chocolate cigars. I have a vividly painted suitcase of stories that I’ll keep sharing to keep the memories alive. Love to you, wherever you are. X



Breast feed my baby for as long as possible (read all 6 entries…)
Extended

With both kids I’d planned on taking their lead on when to stop breastfeeding. I had to stop cold turkey with Isak when I had emergency surgery in 2008, but he was three and nearly done by then – just having a bit at bedtime. Iris is at that point now (once before bed, sometimes even skipping that), and will probably give it up very soon.

I’ll be a little sad when it’s finally all over, since she’s our last, but I’m very happy to have managed so long with both kids (both of whom got off to somewhat bumpy starts with feeding), and to have helped some other mothers along the way. It’s definitely been worth it.



do first things first (read all 975 entries…)
Down to two…

In these last days of 43T I’m curbing my list a little. I’ve polished my final download set-up, edited a few things, and am trying to find out if I can re-mirror entries without the grey banner of doom.

Today I’m floating on lack of sleep and mercurial emotions – I’ll just try to go with the flow. I’m glad to have cooler weather and sporadically heavy rain today. Now I just need a little more energy and a lot more time.

Missing you all in advance…

Main focus today: End-of-the-road fragments, memoir project, rainy day fun


۞  Daily

  • Health: Body test, exercise, water, vitamins, sleep
  • Home: Dishes, garbage, recycling, flylady mission, sort/declutter
  • Happiness: Joynotes, catch-up entries, mindfulness, photos, me time
  • Summer learning: Khan Academy, summer journal, summer reading club, Starfall
  • Relationships: Connect w/3 friends, family game/adventure, read w/kids, downtime w/M


۞  New

  • Flylady Mission of the Day: Bathroom lights, vanity + wash washer
  • Look into robot message removal (from mirror) √ No luck yet…
  • Work: Continue new memoir project
  • Isak: Update summer journal
  • Leave another message for V
  • Rainy day fun with the kids
  • Continue final entries
  • Movie + popcorn
  • Opalize nails
  • Rescrub tub
  • Relax


۞  Repeat

  • Bedtime reading with Isak: Continue When You Reach Me 
  • Watch/delete DVR: 1 hour
  • Khan Academy
  • Potty practice
  • Music!
  • Read
  • 365


۞  Recycled

  • Message re. mortgage tweaking
  • 15 min: Cube tidy


۞  Queued

  • Hang bedroom mirror
  • New doorbell


complete project 365 (read all 226 entries…)
Frozen

Day 224: August 12

(What I found when I opened the freezer this afternoon)



Release 100 books on BookCrossing (read all 13 entries…)
The last one here...

Last night I released #73. I won’t make it to 100 by the time the site here goes down, but I managed to get pretty far. I’ll carry on and hopefully hit my goal soon (I’ll probably combine this and the memorial book release goal over on PopClogs).

Books registered: 185
Released in the wild: 63
Controlled releases: 10
Total released: 73



do first things first (read all 975 entries…)
And then there were three

The rain is falling today – it’s been a weeks without, and I’m grateful. I think it’ll be an inside day; we’re having friends over to catch up and play, I have a new project to start, and insomnia monkeys have kicked my energy in the noggin.

So little time… where’s my universal remote? I need the pause button.

Main focus today: Whirlwind clean-up, visit, end-of-the-road business, prep project


۞  Daily

  • Health: Body test, exercise, water, vitamins, sleep
  • Home: Dishes, garbage, recycling, flylady mission, sort/declutter
  • Happiness: Joynotes, catch-up entries, mindfulness, photos, me time
  • Summer learning: Khan Academy, summer journal, summer reading club, Starfall - 4/5
  • Relationships: Connect w/3 friends, family game/adventure, read w/kids, downtime w/M


۞  New

  • Flylady Mission of the Day: Bathroom lights, vent, wall smudges - 2/3
  • Work: Set up + start new memoir project
  • Pre-company whirlwind house tidy
  • Have friends over (coffee/play)
  • Bookcrossing release notes
  • Cel: Install SIM, set ICE info
  • Continue final entries
  • 15 min: Cube tidy
  • Finish kid pedis
  • Polish mirror
  • Laundry


۞  Repeat

  • Bedtime reading with Isak: Continue When You Reach Me 
  • Watch/delete DVR: 1 hour
  • Khan Academy
  • Potty practice
  • Music!
  • Read
  • 365


۞  Recycled

  • Message re. mortgage tweaking
  • Prep final download


۞  Queued

  • Hang bedroom mirror
  • New doorbell


complete project 365 (read all 226 entries…)
Good intentions

Day 223: August 11



build a robot (read all 4 entries…)
I am not a robot

Isak and I have made several robots together since adding this to the list. He’s expanded his programming knowledge, picked up additional parts here and there (including another whole functional mindstorms unit he found for a few bucks at Value Village), and we’ve had a lot of fun with them.

While we have yet to build the original goalpost AT-AT Walker, it’s definitely an aim for the future. If only we’d managed to build a robot that could have taken over the site here…



do first things first (read all 975 entries…)
The last Monday

We’re in the last week here now (4 days?), and I’m trying to get past the anxiety and sadness that goes hand in hand with that. There’s a sense of sitting at the bedside of an old friend for their final days, and I should be saying and doing so much more, I just can’t seem to get the right words out or harness the gumption to give blood on the way to fetch my license and drive to a publishing house in New Orleans.

I’m not trying to be melodramatic, it’s just a bit overwhelming. I keep thinking about how much I’ll miss it here – all your familiar faces; the puzzle pieces of our lives and watching the shared trajectory of our hopes and goals over the years… it’s hard to see the hammer approaching the screen. It’ll be harder when that last entry freezes.

I wonder who will get the last word? I wish I could cheer them in advance.

Main focus today: Whirlwind clean-up, end-of-the-road business, project d/l, library


۞  Daily

  • Health: Body test, exercise, water, vitamins, sleep
  • Home: Dishes, garbage, recycling, flylady mission, sort/declutter
  • Happiness: Joynotes, catch-up entries, mindfulness, photos, me time
  • Summer learning: Khan Academy, summer journal, summer reading club, Starfall
  • Relationships: Connect w/3 friends, family game/adventure, read w/kids, downtime w/M


۞  New

  • Flylady Mission of the Day: Surface clean washer/dryer, bathroom lights + vent - Some… plus switches, tub, etc.
  • Work: Download new project √ + Set up
  • Post weekend whirlwind tidy
  • Crazy pedicures for the kids √ – Isak
  • Empty/clean kiddie-pool
  • Prep final download
  • Outside adventure
  • Clean kids’ doors
  • Start final entries
  • Clean bathtub
  • Weed fridge
  • Library


۞  Repeat

  • Bedtime reading with Isak: Continue When You Reach Me 
  • Watch/delete DVR: 1 hour
  • Khan Academy
  • Potty practice
  • Music!
  • Read
  • 365


۞  Recycled

  • Message re. mortgage tweaking
  • Bookcross


۞  Queued

  • Hang bedroom mirror
  • New doorbell


complete project 365 (read all 226 entries…)
Blue lagoon by the light of the moon

Day 222: August 10

Last night we went up the mountain to watch the supermoon rise. Sadly all my photos were blurry and grainy with the exception of this shot of the slurpees we stopped for along the way. One of these days I’m going to have to replace my aging camera.



complete project 365 (read all 226 entries…)
Lazy Susan

Day 221: August 9



pick blueberries (read all 2 entries…)
I found my thrill…

Oh, we had a marvelous time! Other than plucking a few for ice-cream at a friend’s place one summer, the kids had never picked blueberries before. My parents picked us up and we drove to a berry farm near their house. We had perfect weather – sunny, blue skies, not too hot.

Iris got right into it; carefully picking off perfect berries and putting them in her basket, while Isak had a frequent hand-to-mouth (to test them) approach. We ended up with a huge amount of delicious berries, which I’m sure will go faster than expected. This and the picnic that followed made for a perfect afternoon.



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