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I found a wonderfull dentist who never stops talking and always explains what she does while she does it. I still don’t like going there, but now I’m not scared anymore. The only thing that worries me sometimes is that she might retire in about 15 years and I’ll have to find a new dentist who is just as perfect as she is :)

This summer, 2 days after my last exam, I got on the plane. It was onforgettable, and there are no words to describe how it felt to finally be able to hold her after so long…

Yesterday, my girl and I were invited to my cousins house, for a small get together with family. It was the first time they met my girlfriend, and even the first time they saw me after coming out to them. Yeah, weird thing: my mom did my coming out to all the fun and tolerant people in the family for me, and now i’m stuck with the conservative, not very in touch with their emotions, quiet and less educated idiots in our family tree. Jeez thanks mom, i would have split the fun people with you if it was THAT important :)
But on the other hand, I shouldn’t complain… My coming out wasn’t a matter of years, it was a matter of months. As I’m 26 and had to break off a longterm relationship with a man, i couldn’t really hide it for that long… I was old enough to realise: screw them all, after 10 years of depression that seemed to have no cause at all, I was ready to live my own life no matter what.

So my mom and her side of the family were quickly informed, tears were shed, boxes moved out of the house of my straight partner, into the house of my gay partner, and on sundays, as usual, my mom kept bringing food, like nothing had changed…

But then there is my dad… As a 73-year old, being part of a different generation, and altho he is very in touch with his feelings, a very quiet man, he needed time to get over it. He is getting over it, and he accepted my girlfriend almost immediately (thank you daddy, it means the world to me) but speaking the words: “my daughter is a lesbian” is just too much for him…
Which ofcourse causes situations that could be hilarous while reading about it in a book or seeing it happen on a big hollywood moviescreen, it’s not so funny anymore when it’s just plain life happening.
My cousin on dad’s side of the family gave birth to a lil girl and still sent the card to my old adress with my ex’s name on it. So i got a phonecall from him: ‘You’ve got mail here, someone got a baby”...
I should get a present or the little brat, and i should go hand it over personally, but who do i take? Do i go alone and paint them a picture of the situation? I can’t take my ex and pretend life is all good with him.. I can’t take my girl cos they will prolly choke on the whatever you call those lil treats they hand out at babyshowers…

Right now, i’m in the “I’m pretending i never got the card” phase…
So I guess what i would really like to know is: how do you come out to family you hardly ever see, don’t really have a bond with, but where you can’t avoid the fact you’re gonna have to invite them to your wedding some day…
Maybe if i give them a lot of booze before the church, they won’t even notice :D