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My husband and I recently (at the end of July) removed ourselves from the lives of both or our best friends. It was a hard decision but what lead to the decision was all the proof we needed to realize that people who dont aknowledge that there is a problem cannot be fixed. My husband was in a rediculous argument with his bff that lead to his friend punching a hole through his lip all because my husband was defending himself and someone else. This bff also choked another friend who showed up after the drama that occured with my husband. This particular man spent two tours in the middle east and we belive strongly that he really needs help. But he refused to admit there was/is a problem. He was abusing his wife--whom was my bff. But she defended him. I guess I can understand why she would. Why would she want her abuser on her bad side? That just creates more hardship for her. But if by chance she were to ever see this message. I do miss her greatly! And the end of our friendship was not an easy decision…but being the type of person that I am…I cannot help but worry about her and her two children with her husband. I feel that what transpired between all of us was her husbands way of destroying her support system…because when it comes down the the reason why all hell broke loose to begin with—it’s a rediculous reason. Anyhow I have had a hard time with what happened between us all, I miss my friend and I wish them well. But a part of me wants to move on and let them live their own lives and stop blaming others for their issues. I hope I never hear of her being killed by this guy or Id never forgive myself. She isn’t perfect, either is he, either am I…but he needs help. Anyway…its too long of a story to get too into detail. I just miss them but Im glad they’re out of my life at the same time.