All I know is that I was conceived in late 1977 or early 1978, most likely in Melbourne, Australia. My mother’s name is Margaret Annette Owen and she was almost 40 at the time, but she passes herself off as younger.
I thought I knew who my father was (a prominent musician) and desperately wanted to get to know him. I finally did get to spend more time with him a few years ago and he’s a wonderful man.
Then I asked that we formalize things by having my birth certificate changed; it currently says ‘PATERNTIY NOT ACKNOWLEDGED’. He told me that he wasn’t sure he was my father and asked that we get a DNA test first. I thought he was lying about it and said some things I now regret.
When the test results came back I was absolutely stunned: turns out, he isn’t my father at all. My not-mother (she disowned me a few years ago) won’t tell me anything about my real father. She insists that she remembers literally nothing about him: not his name, what he looked like, where she met him, what he wore…
Whatever the big secret is, my not-mother will do literally anything to keep it. She started by threatening to make a scene at my sister’s wedding, so my sister dis-invited me even though I was supposed to be one of her bridesmaids!
So right after losing my father, my step-mother (his wife) and my five half-brothers because it turns out I’m not related to them at all, my sister then turned on me as well. Er, half-sister. We don’t look at all alike so I guess we probably have different fathers.
The only bright side to this is that a couple I’ve known since I was tiny have ‘adopted’ me, so I do have some family again now. Plus my husband’s family are great.
In general I’d rather have family I’m not biologically related to who are decent people, so good riddance to not-mother and not-half-sister… but I would like to know who my father is.
What’s my family medical history?
Who am I related to?
(Thankfully I can mostly rule out being biologically related to my husband, except maybe as distant cousins)
Where is my father from?
(Am I entitled to a passport for some amazing place and don’t even know it?)
What is he like? What part of my looks and personality did I get from him?
I really hope I find out one day…