My son, being Autistic, has very rigid views and thoughts about everything. A while back, he was watching news coverage of the Civil Rights Union that our beautiful state of Colorado was talking about. He was listening, and when the coverage spoke of ‘two women’ and ‘two men’, he freaked out, and said, “That’s not right! They can’t do that! Ew, disgusting!” I swear, you could have heard my heart drop to the floor as I witnessed the hate spew from his mouth. I was dumbfounded. I thought he definitely had to have been switched at birth or something, because those words are not from me at all!
See, he has never been around any part of the LGBT community. And all he has ever seen is mommy with a boy, not a girl. He sees T.V. shows with girls liking boys, and boys liking girls. He had never known anything different, and that change freaked him out. For weeks, every time the news coverage came on, I would hear words of disgust coming from him yet again. I was afraid for how I would ever get him to see different. I tried to speak to him about it, but nothing. We are friends with new neighbors (who happen to be lesbians), and I have been so scared for the one time he sees them embrace or share a kiss, for what he may say. I thought about warning them, but I don’t think the kids in the household know, so they keep it to themselves in front of them.
Well, que in the song SAME LOVE, by MACKLEMORE & RYAN LEWIS, featuring MARY LAMBERT…that’s what got things started. If you haven’t heard it, or have heard it, but haven’t seen the video, please click the link and watch it from YouTube. It is a stunningly beautiful visual gift to go along with the equally beautiful and brilliant lyrics. My favorite song, for sure!
I have loved, loved, LOVED this song from the moment I heard it. It’s beautiful and fits so perfectly in the time of history right now. Every time I hear it, I tear up. My son also loves the song, and sings along to it every time. Today, when it came on, he said “I love this song!” I asked. “You know what it’s about, right?” He answers with a whatever-toned answer of “Yea, ew.” I was not going to give up!
So, I told him “Did you know that some groups of people believe that being gay is a disease that needs to be cured and they take the “diseased” people away from their loves and shock them and perform all sorts of awful things?” His eyes widened. I have said this before, but again I said “and some people are filled with such hate that they beat gay people up; that some gay people feel so helpless and hurt by the world, that they take their own lives; that some never come out to anyone and live their lives the way everyone else wants them to, and never being fully happy and in love…” I went on and on as I spoke to him. I was getting through to him!
He ended up saying things about how awful those evil people are for treating others that way, and that God shouldn’t forgive them; I said God forgives everyone…even if they suck. He said “if people’s family and friends can’t be okay with them, that is very mean.” He really began to understand the pain that can come of such ignorance and hate and begin to accept a new idea. He knows how back in the day, interracial couples were considered “bad” and not allowed, but now, that same thought process has faded (he said “well, that’s just skin color, no worries” to which, I replied, “and this is just gender, no worries.” I loved seeing the light bulb go off in his eyes as he thought more and more about it.
My boy is so smart and loving. I hope this new way of beginning to think sticks with him. Love is love, no matter what. Not one single person should be denied the right to love and be with whomever they want to be with. I love and accept the LGBT community of awesome folks. Why so many are fearful of Equal Rights I will simply never know. If they don’t like it, turn away and move on. It is none of their business! No freedom ‘til we’re equal, damn right I support it!!!