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Believe you are equal because you are. It’s as simple as that. Stop comparing yourself and competing with others and look at yourself and what you have done in the context of your life and your circumstances. There are always going to be people who are better at something or worse at something, BUT as far as BEING, you are equal. Everyone has problems they deal with, internal emotional shit and external circumstances that require others to be compassionate or understanding of, but by no means is anyone obligated to be anything more than respectful to each other.

You choose how you walk in the world….

All my life I was different because I had a scar on my face and it affected my ability to speak and smile. I believed that I was just misunderstood by my appearance which made me look I was pissed off all the time. I told people 10 times a day “I’m fine” because people were always “what’s wrong”? So, one day a teacher told me that I had to talk more and be more outgoing even when I felt like hiding so people would understand that what I looked like on the outside was not how I felt on the inside.
After awhile I started smiling more now that I felt that I was being understood and I saw when I looked in the mirror, that look wasn’t there anymore. I was scowling because I was embarassed of how I looked. It wasn’t the world that had the problem, IT WAS ME and I projected my own insecurity onto everyone else. I still had jerks make fun of me or said mean things, but I knew it was because they had insecurities of their own and pointing out my flaws took their attention away from their own problems and insecurities. I learned to forgive.

For what it is worth, you just have to believe it to make it true. You are the most important person in your life, even more important than your kids and your husband/wife, if you have those people in your life. You have to take care of your needs first, because if you can’t love and care for your own self, you won’t do much good for anyone else. That doesn’t mean being selfish or depriving your relationships/children. It just means you have needs that must be met in order to function as a healthy person.

Your kids are a close second if you have them and you should be willing to make sacrifices for them, but your health and wellbeing are paramount, even if you just have to believe it’s for their sake. Whatever you decide, make it happen. Do whatever you think is going to help you become healthy inside and out.

Someone said that you have to believe you are Better than everyone else and that’s another tactic to avoid looking at your problems. Going from Low Self Esteem to Arrogant Prick isn’t going to change the reality of the situation that you are unhappy.