I'm doing 29 things
Actually, I’ve been living in a small, seaside town for over a year now and I still dont know many people. This is the kind of place where everyone knows everyone and their business but its taking me a while to really get settled in. I dont feel like I have any close friends at all here and my really good friend/s is over two hours travel away. Because of this, I’m reliant on phone calls and emails and it’d be awesome to just have some people in the neighbourhood to go and hang with. The thing I have a problem with is turning an acquaintance into a friend. I have a ton of acquaintances…and I know you cant rush these things – I dont want to come off as desperate or needy. Its just like, I’m either not interested in people or I’m afraid of the ones I am interested in. I guess it all just takes practice right? I have decided to be more friendly to people no matter how crap I am feeling and to just smile and say hello and make small talk.
becsta777's Life List
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1. Get an HIV Test
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2. Get my drivers license
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3. Save $8000
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4. make more friends
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5. Exercise more
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6. be more confident
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7. stop being scared
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8. Stop playing mind games
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9. Stop beating myself up
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10. Stop caring about what other people think
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11. Get published
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12. Be more honest
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13. Paint more
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14. Write more
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15. Finish my degree
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16. Stop procrastinating
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17. Learn to Surf
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18. live in another country
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19. learn a martial art
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20. Learn German
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21. Learn French
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22. Learn Dutch
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23. Learn Vietnamese
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24. Learn to play the piano
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25. Learn to play the guitar
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26. go to a naturopath
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27. Learn to ride a motorbike
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28. stop judging people
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29. be nice to my mother
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How I did it: my friend told me about a new teacher in our town and I went along to the class. It was scary and weird at first, but then fine. I have done four classes now and I am soooo sore today from the one last night. I only go once a week as its all I can fit in! I feel so calm afterward though. Just do it! Read how I did it…
How I did it: First, I put it out there to the universe that I wanted to move into my own place and I only wanted to pay about $90 a week for it too. Because I live near the beach, this idea seemed a bit far fetched. All worked out - I met a guy who was moving out of his studio apartment and was paying - you guessed it, $90 a week for it. I put in an application before it went back on the market and I bagged it. All moved in now and its mine, mine, min… Read how I did it…
This includes honesty with myself. I delude myself all the time without even realising it, especially in uncomfortable situations. Its not until weeks later that I see things for what they really were. I also talk a lot of shit when I’m nervous, I make myself out to be someone I’m not and I usually look really stupid. It’s embarassing.
It doesnt matter what I achieve, I always think I could do better, I never really congratulate myself only reprimand myself for not doing even better than I did. I tell myself I was too lazy, too stupid, too old, too young, too naive etc etc. If I get something wrong, I find it really hard to let myself off and I just keep thinking about my mistake over and over in my head and what I could have done differently. I need to start loving myself more and reminding myself that everything is a learning experience.
