There’s a voice inside my head that interprets things people say to me in the worst way possible. There’s a voice that tells me not to talk to someone I don’t know because they might think its weird.. to not ask a girl out because I don’t know her and she’s probably not interested etc. etc. The voice is keeping me from doing a lot of things I’d like to do and also maybe keeping me from being as happy as I could be, but its hard to shut out…
betteringmyself's Life List
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1. meet new people
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2. be less shy
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3. pray more
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4. Dress better
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5. be less judgmental
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6. be more open minded
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7. worry less
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8. Deepen my faith
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9. swear less
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10. be more patient
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11. COUNT MY BLESSINGS
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12. be more social
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13. Step out of my comfort zone
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14. volunteer more
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15. stop cursing
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16. dress more professionally
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17. learn how to use 43 Things
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18. lucid dream
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19. write a novel
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20. get married
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21. find the right person
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22. Stop caring what other people think of me
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23. Have a more positive attitude.
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I have been on this site for months. I still can’t ask for advice from people who’ve done my things. Why? I see other people doing it. Someone told me to follow the link, but I don’t have a link. I can look at other people’s questions and I can answer them. Why am I not allowed to ask any? Having some advice would help me get things accomplished.
When I try something new that is not something that falls within my comfort zone, it usually is something that causes some kind of worries or negative thoughts. As a result, when I try these things I never enjoy them not becuase of the activity itself, but because these nagging worries are always plaguing my mind. “What if this person thinks this about me?” “what did he/she mean by that?” “What if I get hurt doing this?” etc. etc. This is what keeps me from doing these things and when I do actually do them I am miserable because of it. I want to be able to put these thoughts out of my head, but don’t know the answer.
