I have both “love myself” and “reinvent myself” on my list, is that a paradox? Perhaps it’s just me daydreaming that I could be someone else. Yet, I’d like to see both as linked to one another, making small positive changes in my life which would lead me to think differently about myself.
blackjuniper's Life List
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1. love myself
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2. exercise more
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3. try a raw food diet
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4. reinvent myself
1 entry348 people -
5. Quit Smoking
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6. learn to drive
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7. take painting lessons
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8. learn more about art history
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9. focus on now
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10. start blogging again
27 people -
11. read 12 dystopian novels
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12. write a novel
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13. learn PHP
1,487 people -
14. learn ruby on rails
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15. design a wordpress theme
2 people -
16. write an ebook
1 cheer69 people -
17. learn to ride a motorbike
301 people -
18. Refresh my Mandarin
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19. Learn Spanish
15,502 people -
20. Travel to South America
364 people -
21. Curate an exhibition
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22. live honestly
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23. sell old clothing
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24. start a travel website
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25. be fluent in 3 languages
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26. have no fear
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27. Own my own business
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28. Take more photos
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29. set up a pop up shop
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30. do a counselling course
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All my life I’ve been the underachiever, taking on unchallenging jobs and never fulfilling any goals. Sometimes it feels like I’m looking at my life in a constant dream-like state, that the physical person doesn’t gel with the mind. Often I’ve been told by others that I’m smart and intelligent, and that I can do anything I want, but I don’t know where to begin. I recently quit my job ‘cos I found it boring and awful, but now I just sit at home and wonder where my day goes. I’ve retreated from my friends and I hate going out to meet people.
Often it feels like I’m living a lie and am too used to avoiding and running away from my problems. When you walk by the self-help section of the bookstore and think that half of the titles are screaming out how wrong you are, you know you have major self-esteem issues.
I’ve thought of going to a therapist, but I’m not sure if it’ll be of any help.
Is there a formula to loving yourself? I don’t want to love myself based on conditions, e.g. when I look good, when I have many friends, when I earn big bucks. I just want to respect myself and love me for me. I seriously don’t know where to begin.
It’s going to be hard to go on a raw food diet when I’m living with a lean mean meat-eating machine that is the boyfriend, so I’m going to start by drinking fresh smoothies every day which I love.
