Kind of feel like a bug that has just hit a windshield. I know that if I call James it will not be pretty. Oftentimes our conversations just made me feel like SHIT but, I feel like I need to know that it is truly over so that I can get on with my life. I guess I am just a glutton for punishment and, it gives me a perverse pleasure pouring salt into my wounds.
blurred's Life List
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1. Actualize my potential
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2. live my life on my own terms, not trying to live up to the expectations of others
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3. work because I like to, not because I have to
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4. Beat my depression
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5. stand up for myself
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6. get over him
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7. Be happy without being in love.
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8. appreciate what I have
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9. own a house
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10. fall in love again, and, for a change, actually be loved back, while I'm at that
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11. publish my poetry
1 entry . 6 cheers480 people -
12. Spend less time fooling around on the net and more time actually working
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13. change
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14. exercise regularly
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15. Realize that some people are never going to be the people you thought they might be and be ok with that
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16. Post random thoughts, observations, and events of the day...
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17. stop being afraid
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18. control my own happiness
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Apparently, I got over one, just in time so that I can get over another! Ha! Life is funny.
Just to be sure that I was using the appropriate word I looked up the definition and it fits: “a place or state of oblivion to which persons or things are regarded as being relegated when cast aside, forgotten, past, or out of date”.
The fat lady hasn’t sung yet but, the train has already left. Well, James left Hawaii and with that action the relationship ended. He closed the chapter on Hawaii and moved on and I wish I could be as uncaring and thoughtless as him. I was even willing to visit him in FL to continue our relationship or at least to see where it would lead to but…I ended up cancelling my reservations.
And, it is hard to start dating again (I hate that word, what am I a teenager??) when my heart still loves James and hopes for “happily ever after”. I wish I could just forget about him and stop waiting for a phone call or an email that I know I will never get. I know I don’t want to get back on that rollercoaster ride again, but I keep thinking of the good times (even when there were so many more bad times) and then I get so sad. It is so depressing and pathetic to be holding on.
