We are trying so hard to pay off our debts, and i resent him b/c i feel like:
1. we are paying off his student loans, not his fault but he could at least feel some responsibility. Ok, some are his fault…he didn’t totally run by me the debt he took out since we were married.
2. We stayed here in town b/c he wanted to do another year at his partime 3 day week job, plus some night jobs one day a week. That said, he didnt work all summer and ignored my pleas to please get a job so we could reach our financial goals.
3. HE did not disucss the upcoming financial impact of our move to a new house with our new roomates; they are his friends and i resent that he wasnt confrontational or thought ahead about impact of all this.
4. He spends all his free time on art show, which i too would love to be doing but dont have 2 days a week off to work on like he does. I am jealous of this and i wish he were using those 2 days to contribute financial to our shortterm goal of getting out of debt.
5. I carry most of the burden of tracking our finances, he has gotten a lot better at participating, he gets it deep down and pretty much plays along but, while he spends free time making art/pursuing his dream etc, i spend my free time making financial spreadsheets and figuring out ways for us to save money. I work more and make more than him, and have less free time, so this can seem unjust to me.
I dont know what to do about these…
