Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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read 25 books in 2008 (read all 27 entries…)
11.) Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office by Lois P. Frankel

101 Unconscious Mistakes that Women Make to Sabatoge their careers.

Good book, I liked it. Although it’s set up more in a workbook format than a readable page turner.

3.75 stars out of 5.

read 25 books in 2008 (read all 27 entries…)
10.) Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T Kiyosaki

I liked this book despite the fact that it tends to be insanely repetitive and has too many typos and grammatical errors for such a short breezy book. It’s a nice motivational book to inspire people to learn more but actually provides very little practical knowledge in it’s own right (perhaps an excellent marketing ploy, a la carrot in front of the horses mouth, in order to entice people to buy the next two books in the series?).

2.5 stars out of 5

read 25 books in 2008 (read all 27 entries…)
9.) Free to Choose by Milton and Rose Friedman

Excellent, Excellent book. I am soo glad I read this. It was on my 2005 reading list from the Modern Library but because I’ve also got 70 other books on that list to read I hadn’t necessarily thought this one would be getting page time in the near future. However, T had borrowed it from his friend and everytime I was over at T’s place…I kept picking it up and thumbing through it.

I’ve had the experience before and now again that I know some things intuitively but I can’t get them into words. They are just hunches and I don’t usually go out of my way to express them because I don’t have the empiracle data to back them up. Free to Choose is that data and reasoning in one such instance.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to better understand what is going wrong in the U.S. today that is usually blamed on Capitilism and Greed.

5 out of 5 stars

Savor the Compliments I get (read all 16 entries…)
"You are a bright, great girl"

Said by one of my co-workers. Interestingly enough, he and I hated eachother when he started. But it was all a cultural misunderstanding and once I gave him a second chance, it turned out that he’s a pretty cool guy and we got along really well.

Leaving work has prompted my co-workers to say such nice things to me. Kinda makes me want to quit all the time ;).

read 25 books in 2008 (read all 27 entries…)
8.) Snow by Orhan Pamuk

This was a birthday gift from T (it’s about his home country). It took me about 1/3 of the book to warm up to it. By the second 1/3 I was making connections between it and EVERYTHING else in my life. And by the last 1/3 I was totally consumed with the story and couldn’t wait to find out what happened in the end. I don’t normally have that kind of progression in the way I relate to a story so it was a new, interesting experience.

However, not knowing anyone else who has read it has dimmed the enjoyment. I think this is the perfect book for a book club and it’s too bad I don’t have anyone to discuss it with.

3.75 stars out of 5.

Savor the Compliments I get (read all 16 entries…)
"Knowing You Has Enriched My Life"

Wow. This felt so good to hear and especially because the sentiment was reciprocal. I’ve had amazing conversations with this person that I met through work. I felt so good about this.

stop buying books (read all 5 entries…)

I am soooo a compulsive book buyer. I just bought three books today on and and yesterday I bought one. But I have a really good excuse. I’m not going to have a job for ONE MONTH and I’m going to need a way to keep myself busy. I’ll burn through the books I have now in about two week. The magazines will keep me busy for another week. Then…I suppose I could go to the library but the books that I bought are probably going to be the kind I’ll want to re-read so I should just have my own copy. Ya know?


Siighhh I suppose there are worse things to be.

articulate a personal code of ethics

I’m frustrated with myself this week. I’ve had a lapse in my effort to stop being so self centered and individualistic. I didn’t stop to consider someone who means so much to me. I…. don’t know…my sense of right and wrong failed me the other night. I may have damaged a relationship that was starting to be really important to me and I’m afraid that the guilt will never go away. That this will never repair. That I will never know the full extent of how much I hurt this person. I’d rather have done something that only affected myself.

find out who's subscribed to me (read all 10 entries…)
Welcome Number 9

Please, feel free to introduce yourself. I’m always happy to return the support to people who follow along with me :)

Choose and begin a career path (read all 30 entries…)
!!!!!!! I GOT IN !!!!!!

Debbie the Dean of Admissions from Mills just called me. I got in!!!!!

They gave me the Dean’s scholarship for $13,000 and the Phi Theta Kappa scholarship for $5,000.

They didn’t give me the Trustee Scholarship :( but I DID make the shortlist and if that person decides not to enroll, I have another shot at it!!!!


Live Up My Non-Working Hiatus (read all 2 entries…)

I’ve now got at least a month to not work. After quitting my job I realized that finanially I can coast by for awhile without getting a new one. However, this means that my entertainment budget drops down to pretty much zero. I’m just going to have to find cheap or free ways to entertain myself for the next 30 days.

I secured a hammock (friend is going to lend me hers). I’ve got a pile of books I want to read (literally, there is at least ten so far). My magazine subscriptions will finally get the attention they deserve. I’ll probably spend time writing a lot of letters and post cards to friends around the world. I bought a flask and had my initials engraved on it plus bought the ingredients to fill it with cosmos when my girls and I do go out (soooo much cheaper than paying $12 a drink at the clubs). I figure by my 10th drink the flask and booze will have paid for themselves. Eating on the cheap shouldn’t be that hard and I plan on using the bike for as much traveling as possible instead of the car. I bought myself a cell phone since the one I use now is a company phone. I think I’m all set!

Things I’m really sad about:

-The Crucible’s Fire Ballet is coming up and I have been SOOO excited all year to go. Don’t think I can work the tickets into my non-spending budget.
-The Hip Hop Ballet is also coming up (in June) so I HAVE to have a job by then, I DO NOT want to miss that one.
-Childhood best friends wedding is in May… sounds like her fiance is going to buy my plane ticket. She hasn’t told me how much my dress will cost yet….JEEZ girl GET ON IT! It’s only 2 months away!!

Choose and begin a career path (read all 30 entries…)
The Executive - ENTJ (Myers-Briggs Personality Test)

A friend of mine is a future psychologist/counselor/therapist and a major believer in the Myers-Briggs personality test. She has been trying to get me to take it for the last 6 months. Since I’ve only got a week and a half left to kill at work…I’ve got a lot of time on my hands (not about to start any new projects).

So, I finally took the test and would you believe the results sound dead on? Here they are:

The Executive

As an ENTJ, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with things rationally and logically. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.

ENTJs are natural born leaders. They live in a world of possibilities where they see all sorts challenges to be surmounted, and they want to be the ones responsible for surmounting them. They have a drive for leadership, which is well-served by their quickness to grasp complexities, their ability to absorb a large amount of impersonal information, and their quick and decisive judgments. They are “take charge” people.

ENTJs are very career-focused, and fit into the corporate world quite naturally. They are constantly scanning their environment for potential problems which they can turn into solutions. They generally see things from a long-range perspective, and are usually successful at identifying plans to turn problems around – especially problems of a corporate nature. ENTJs are usually successful in the business world, because they are so driven to leadership. They’re tireless in their efforts on the job, and driven to visualize where an organization is headed. For these reasons, they are natural corporate leaders.

There is not much room for error in the world of the ENTJ. They dislike to see mistakes repeated, and have no patience with inefficiency. They may become quite harsh when their patience is tried in these respects, because they are not naturally tuned in to people’s feelings, and more than likely don’t believe that they should tailor their judgments in consideration for people’s feelings. ENTJs, like many types, have difficulty seeing things from outside their own perspective. Unlike other types, ENTJs naturally have little patience with people who do not see things the same way as the ENTJ. The ENTJ needs to consciously work on recognizing the value of other people’s opinions, as well as the value of being sensitive towards people’s feelings. In the absence of this awareness, the ENTJ will be a forceful, intimidating and overbearing individual. This may be a real problem for the ENTJ, who may be deprived of important information and collaboration from others. In their personal world, it can make some ENTJs overbearing as spouses or parents.

The ENTJ has a tremendous amount of personal power and presence which will work for them as a force towards achieving their goals. However, this personal power is also an agent of alienation and self-aggrandizement, which the ENTJ would do well to avoid.

ENTJs are very forceful, decisive individuals. They make decisions quickly, and are quick to verbalize their opinions and decisions to the rest of the world. The ENTJ who has not developed their Intuition will make decisions too hastily, without understanding all of the issues and possible solutions. On the other hand, an ENTJ who has not developed their Thinking side will have difficulty applying logic to their insights, and will often make poor decisions. In that case, they may have brilliant ideas and insight into situations, but they may have little skill at determining how to act upon their understanding, or their actions may be inconsistent. An ENTJ who has developed in a generally less than ideal way may become dictatorial and abrasive – intrusively giving orders and direction without a sound reason for doing so, and without consideration for the people involved.

Although ENTJs are not naturally tuned into other people’s feelings, these individuals frequently have very strong sentimental streaks. Often these sentiments are very powerful to the ENTJ, although they will likely hide it from general knowledge, believing the feelings to be a weakness. Because the world of feelings and values is not where the ENTJ naturally functions, they may sometimes make value judgments and hold onto submerged emotions which are ill-founded and inappropriate, and will cause them problems – sometimes rather serious problems.

ENTJs love to interact with people. As Extroverts, they’re energized and stimulated primarily externally. There’s nothing more enjoyable and satisfying to the ENTJ than having a lively, challenging conversation. They especially respect people who are able to stand up to the ENTJ, and argue persuasively for their point of view. There aren’t too many people who will do so, however, because the ENTJ is a very forceful and dynamic presence who has a tremendous amount of self-confidence and excellent verbal communication skills. Even the most confident individuals may experience moments of self-doubt when debating a point with an ENTJ.

ENTJs want their home to be beautiful, well-furnished, and efficiently run. They’re likely to place much emphasis on their children being well-educated and structured, to desire a congenial and devoted relationship with their spouse. At home, the ENTJ needs to be in charge as much as he or she does in their career. The ENTJ is likely best paired with someone who has a strong self-image, who is also a Thinking type. Because the ENTJ is primarily focused on their careers, some ENTJs have a problem with being constantly absent from home, physically or mentally.

The ENTJ has many gifts which make it possible for them to have a great deal of personal power, if they don’t forget to remain balanced in their lives. The are assertive, innovative, long-range thinkers with an excellent ability to translate theories and possibilities into solid plans of action. They are usually tremendously forceful personalities, and have the tools to accomplish whatever goals they set out for.

Jungian functional preference ordering:

Dominant: Extraverted Thinking
Auxiliary: Introverted Intuition
Tertiary: Extraverted Sensing
Inferior: Introverted Feeling

Savor the Compliments I get (read all 16 entries…)
you'll be great in business and politics!

Said by my friend who has been helping me apply to go back to school.

Choose and begin a career path (read all 30 entries…)
Oh and....

I was wrong about the notification date. I misunderstood their statement on the website. It says that: “we will notify applicants within two weeks of our decision”. Not that they will notify within two weeks of applicants submitting their application.

It turned out better in the end this way. It meant that I didn’t feel obligated to wait to quit my job until I heard the results. It also allows me to focus on other goals and pay attention to the rest of my life instead of obessing about their decision for 24/7 for two weeks straight. Now I only obsess about it 2-3 hours a day. That’s a lot more managable ;).

Dot…I’m sorry, my spelling and grammar are sh&t lately. I blame it on the exhaustion… forgive me ;)

Choose and begin a career path (read all 30 entries…)

Just waiting to hear back from Mills. Have been in contact with the Dean of Admissions once more. After logging into their application status website I noticed that my documents are noted as being received after the March 1 priority scholarship deadline. Wrote an email to the Dean asking her if this was accurate as I was careful for all of my documents to arrive well before the deadline. Took the opprotunity to once again re-iterate my interest in the Trustee Scholarship. She responded within 24 hours that all of my documents are marked as received prior to the deadline and “Don’t worry, your application is being considered for priority scholarship!”. That’s her exclamation point. Am I silly to take that as a good sign??

Scholarship Possibilities:

Cal-Grants ~$9,708
Trustee Scholarship $32,542
Dean’s Scholarship $12,500
Osher Scholarship $12,500
Phi Theta Kappa $5,000

I’m not religious, but I’ve been praying that things work out. I want this so bad and am SOO ready to start making progress toward my goals. I can’t stand the idea of wasting anymore time.

Any 43things buddies that want to send positive energy to the admissions committee, please feel free to do so ;). I’m taking all the help I can get!

make a smaller ecological footprint (read all 4 entries…)
I've done this....

I never take plastic shopping bags if I don’t need them. I’ve really tried to stop buying bottled water and when I do I reuse them several times before recylcing them. I’m religous about turning off lights and recycling. I take the bus to work everyday.

Of course I can keep improving, but it’s not something I have to actively focus on anymore. These habits are pretty established.

legally change my name
I've never....

liked my real name. The name my parents gave me (hint: it’s not Tre, that’s my nickname). As early as 2nd grade I used to invent names I liked better and sign my grade school papers with them (this always irritated my teachers). When I was in third grade this guy Marcos had a crush on me. He would ask me, using my real name, to be his girlfriend everyday for the entire year. Everyday I would respond that I didn’t answer to that name and he should call me Lisa. LOL. He didn’t like me very much once we got to high school, any wonders why? My real name is so plain and boring and does not fit me at all. All of my close friends and people who know me well call me Tre. I guess it just annoys me that I don’t have poetic license over what all my legal documents say. I’m going to legally change my name someday, probably just to Tre, but at least it will be more unique, more interesting, and more reflective of who I am.

Get a new job (read all 6 entries…)
First Step

I can’t believe I really did it. I quit my job today. Well, technically I gave my two weeks notice.

Sighhhh….I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I am a little bit nervous about money, but really just so so so relieved.

They even offered me MORE money to stay but as soon as he said it I knew that no amount of money would induce me to stay and that’s how I knew that I was making the absolute right choice.


Taking action against ones problems feels so good.

read 25 books in 2008 (read all 27 entries…)
7.) The Omnivore's Dilemma by Michael Pollan

Discusses the irony of the fact that the U.S.A. is one of the most health obsessed nations in the world and also one of the most unhealthy nations in the world.

Analyzing three styles of meals; Industrialized (think McDonalds), Agricultural (grass fed-free range organic farms), and Hunter/Gatherer (admittedly unrealistic but provided for comparison purposes) the author determines that American’s suffer from not having a culturally defined and traditional relationship with food and that this causes the Omnivores Dilemma, i.e. “What should I eat?”

I really enjoyed reading this and feel like I’ve learned some valuable things. However, the last chapters on Hunting and Gathering were dull and hard to relate to. His conclusion was weak and I had the impression that at this point he was as ready to be done writting the book as I was to be done reading it. Great idea, but would have been better executed in 300 pages vs. 400.

3.5 out of 5 stars.

be a better aunt (read all 10 entries…)
It's Working!!

Mariza called and left me a voicemail message on my phone for my birthday. Yay!!

It’s amazing to me how easily the girls enter my thoughts. Any time I see a postcard stand I immediately go browse the stack and buy the cute ones to mail to the girls. Whenever I am in a bookstore I end up wandering to the childrens section and have already collected a few on my shelf that are “birthday-presents-in-waiting”. When I review childrens books I pause and think, “does this book carry a message I want my girls to learn?” Will this inspire, empower, and nurish them?

I’ve started calling the monthly postcards my propaganda campaign. The way I see it, if I lay the groundwork correctly now, by the time they are old enough to travel by themselves they will be really excited to come out and visit me. I think that my brothers will be somewhat weary to send the girls galavanting around with me, but I’m definitely going to push this issue because I feel strongly that it’s important. Then I can take them on vacations and trips around California and the world. I’ve got a high motivation to expose them to the world that I never knew as a little girl.

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