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Got this tattoo for my 1 year anniversary. It has a lot of meaning since my boyfriend is a tattoo artist. He let me tattoo the same thing on his ankle and it turned out really nicely (i guess all that inking comic book pages transferred over to the art of tattooing). It was a beautiful experience.

Previously, I was pretty nervous to get my tattoo, but since my boyfriend was taking me through it, I was okay. He placed it on an angle so it “wouldn’t look geeky” (whatever that means…) and it didn’t hurt. It came out perfectly. The only thing I wish I did differently was to not take a bath 4 thousand times after my tattoo. Needs a touch up.

It represents that I wear my heart on my sleeve, and my love for my boyfriend.

I really think I’ve done this successfully. It was hard. My friend called around christmas to “catch up”. Everyone was like, DON’T call that bitch back. But that isn’t really me, I realized. Just like I kept giving her chances to change and truly be my friend, I felt as though I should explain myself. So I txt messaged her to say: I still cry that we aren’t best friends anymore, but if I called you, I wouldn’t even know where to start… I hope you’re doing well in life and that you have a good christmas.

I have no illusions of being best friends again, like I did before. We just have no contact and I want to keep it that way. I want people who love me and give the same as I do in my life. My boyfriend started to treat me badly and I reminded him that this is my goal. I never want to stick around someone who could act… without feeling… No more negativity. I feel like I have changed a lot without having my best friend always there with me. In a good way.

To people who are afraid of letting go of someone who is bad… Let go, it’s lonely. However, you’ll get through it. There is always a new friend in the horizon. Once you feel positive about yourself again, you’ll be able to forgive and move on. Be with someone who has your feelings at heart! It’s freeing. Don’t drown in others criticism and self hatred, be your own strength and leave those people behind you. My life has changed.

I don’t think this is possible. I have found that taking a few deep breaths when it is happening until the feeling of heat goes away is the easiest remedy. For me, blushing only worsens when someone notices and comments about it (which, btw, is EXTREMEMLY rude), like, “Oh my god, look how red you’re turning!!” or “why are you getting so red?”. HATE that. Makes you just want to punch that person out.

The worst was this one time, I was wearing a red shirt and I was in a university class presenting my work. I could already feel the blush coming on as soon as my name was called to present. The teacher started to really criticize my work, and I didn’t know what to say when he asked me a question (I was too busy thinking “DON’T BLUSH!!”), so I began to turn all shades of red! A guy in the class said, “Holy! You’re turning the color of your SHIRT!”

Then the prof kinda reprimanded me and said that I need to learn to take criticism a lot better. It was such a put down. And how could I explain that I wasn’t embarrassed by his criticism, I was embarrassed by my blushing??