I set this goal because I was having problems accepting praise, enjoying successes and competing effectively. This was making it hard for me to put myself forward, and unlikely to succeed on those occasions when I did and I was feeling under-regarded compared to others, therefore resentful, therefore unhappy, etc.
I decided that changing how I relate to success might help, and started to try and set some habits around that.
1. Still your mind. Enjoy being excited, but when it edges over into panic, wind it in.
2. Keep a record of success. Blog, notes, reflective journal, recording, photos, whatever you want, but keep a record you can refer back to.
3. Build your confidence in your own capability. Structured learning, over a period of time, with achievable goals set by others is a good way to do this. Do a course, learn an instrument or a language, anything like that
4. Own your own achievements. Yes, random factors played a part, but so did you. Think about what you did right and congratulate yourself.
5. Reward yourself. We all respond well to prizes, and they don’t have to be big things. Just a little run of small rewards that say; yes, you did good, you deserve this.