I’ve been struggling with this issue on and off for many years now. It seemed as if I knew a lot of people, yet I didn’t feel like I KNEW a lot of them, you know what I mean?
Part of the problem is knowing too many people. Not that there is anything wrong with it, but it definitely contributes to not being able to get close to any one person. Parties, bar scenes and large group gatherings are not the best places to get to know someone, and there is certainly a lot of that in the group of people I socialize with.
I had to start prioritizing how I spent my time with people, and with whom I spent that time with. I made efforts to ask small groups and/or individuals to go for coffee or dinner, situations that are conducive to conversation.
In turn, I believe I’ve formed some good friendships. Not “friends” in the loose way that is thrown around liberally these days (social software definitely contributed to this), but real friends that I feel I can count on and want to be there for as well.
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I’ll be moving to central San Francisco in a couple of weeks, and I will have very good access to public transportation as well as the highway. I think I am very inclined to be a public trans kid, although I am a bit anxious about not having wheels of my own anymore.
My office is located about 20 miles away, on the Peninsula, which I have almost always driven to and from. My new location will give me better options for public trans.
I am also very keen on joining ZipCar, which will give me access to a car if I need it, and it’s a heck of a lot cheaper than owning a car. With gas prices so high, insurance, maintenance, etc., it seems to make sense to me to do this.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months now, and we’ve been friends for much longer. Although I would say it in my head constantly, I couldn’t muster up the moxie to say those three little words.
I think that there is an anxiety that the sentiment will not be returned the first time it is said, so often, one will put off saying it.
I also strongly feel that actions speak louder than words, and I most certainly felt mutual love between us, and that was certainly worth a lot to me. I guess it always loomed in the back of my head, “when would we finally share those words?”
Turns out, he was experiencing the same thing in his own heart and mind. So it came naturally for both of us just recently and I really couldn’t be happier.
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