erricoellen

I have been friend with two girls since sixth grade – over 25 years. Both friends have had kids, whereas my husband and I decided not to. Both live within a 50 mile radius from me. We try to get together whenever we can, but it gets frustrating. I have been in my home for 4 YEARS and my one friend has yet to even come visit, whereas I have visited her several times. That really hurts. Granted, I know this is what happens, people get married, have kids, and life gets crazy, but still, it really hurts. I also try to arrange things that are kid-friendly, but to no avail. I am always one to make plans with these two and make arrangements. I am also always the one to send cards, emails, etc. when a special occaision happens. I am having a party for my husband this friday, and once again, neither can come. I am really hurt and want to say something, but not sure how to go about it. I am just sick of it and ready to look for other child free people like myself.

I would say definetly getting married to my husband was the best thing that ever happened to me. He is the best guy I could ever hope for. I didn’t meet him until I was 30, and it was year and a half after the ending of a very devastating relationship with someone else. The best thing I did for myself was go and talk to someone and figure out why I fell for selfish jerks and what I wanted in a relationship. When I worked some stuff out for myself, I knew I could also be a better partner. And it was the right time for me to meet him!

I have to say our relationship keeps getting better. We do have our disagreements, and we DO get on each others nerves sometimes, but we are now a team. It is really cool. We try never to be mean or degrading or each other. Life is too short to be with someone you fight with all the time.

I will have to say that I think a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons sometimes, or they just want a “wedding”, not a marraige. That to me is sad. The wedding, although fun, is just ONE DAY, where as the marraige is for the rest of your life. I will also be forthright in saying that PLANNING A WEDDING IS EXHAUSTING… go to Vegas or the islands instead. Much cheaper and much less stressful.

Not too shabby!