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I am all out of love for my last relationship. I need to rebuild my life from scratch as so much that could of went wrong, did go wrong. When I have truly healed, I will start attract more of what I want.

I am looking forward to meeting the amazing person that I was meant to meet and fall in love with.

Finally, I broke up with him. It wasn’t easy, we lived together for 4 years. One day it really hit home how we don’t connect anymore and he didn’t even want to try.

I spent a long time helping build a life and I feel sad that it has ended but it was necessary. Once he got what he wanted, he didn’t want to help me out of a tough situation.

I realise that I can’t just live my life with less than ok and that although it’s painful to leave something you really loved, you have to grow and learn to open your heart again.

Our lives are our gift and I believe that it is important to meet someone that cherishes you, loves, cares, shares and wants to help you.

In the end, I just packed up my stuff and left the place that we were meant to make our home. I am on the road to recovery, one step at a time.

Sometimes i get frustrated and confused with the way things go but always try and find a better way to channel this energy.
I am reading a book on “coaching and mentoring” for Dummies by Marty Brounstein and it really is an amazing book.

This book distinguishes the differences of being a “doer” who just needs results any which way from the “coach” who although is a doer, is also capable of giving people the opportunity to develop in order to be self sufficient.

Really when people think they “need” someone or something, what we probably most need is not in the form of an “instant fix” but something more substaintial that can effectively get us to stand on our own two feet and make a valuable contribution in the short and long term.

He highlights the difference between “commitment” vs “compliance”. How allowing people to be contribute in collaborative efforts and form part of the evaulation of say a project rather than excluding people if methods used don’t get the “results” or by not”using the right method”.

Everyone makes mistakes and although a cliche, it does matter as much the way you deal with a mistake as it does the nature of the mistake. Coaching to bring out the best in people and even in yourself requires honesty and a willingness to do what it takes to move forward positively.

Teaching people self sufficiency has much farther reaching results that merely getting people to do without a thought of “adding value”.