i think the most important thing to remember about losing your virginity is that you shouldn’t just have sex so you arn’t a virgin anymore. the majority of people in this world really dont care whether or not you’ve had sex before, and in the end, whether you feel good or bad about it depends on you.
i waited until i felt i could trust and care about the guy i was with. i was 19 (just 4 months ago…im now 20). because i trusted the guy and felt i was ready, i had no regrets at the time, and i still dont. even if my boyfriend and i broke up, i wouldn’t have regrets about it.
so just make sure that YOU are ready. not you’re boyfriend, not your clique, not anyone else but you. because in the end, it’s you whose going to have deal live with it.
ive been a horselover all of my life, or at least as much as i can remember. i used to bug my parents everyday for a pony, or at least riding lessons. when i was nine, i finally got the present i had always asked for – lessons at an english riding facility. i rode for nine years, and i was even able to get my own horse once i reached highschool (a grade qh gelding named johnny – i rode him western pleasure).
but things went pretty bad. johnny went lame after a year of owning him, and well, he stayed that way for a while. it took over two years to find out that he had navicular bursitis, and after being dumped by several farriers and told that if i had had payed more for the horse i wouldnt have had this problem (he cost my parents 4000, much more than they could really afford), i kind of lost interest in riding. even though my friends at the barn offered me their horses, i refused. i even stopped wanting to go to the barn. greeting each morning to a horse in so much pain was heartbreaking, and i would cry because he wouldn’t want to turn around in his stall to go outside.
after a long ordeal, my vet offered to perform surgery for free. he cut johnny’s nerves so he could walk without pain. but i still couldn’t bear to ride. when i went to school last year, i gave him to a friend (an older woman, first time horse owner) because i knew that i couldn’t leave for school without knowing he’d be in a good home (he stayed at the same barn i boarded him at, and they’ve both been good for each other).
lately ive been champing at the bit sort-to-speak. i miss working with horses, being dusty and dirty after a good grooming, and just the general happiness of riding is something that i want to experience again. after this semester, im going to go back to my barn and exersize my friends horses for them…maybe even johnny :)
Oh man! I just found the greatest tool ever to help organize… I have a really hard time with calendars – wall, desk, planners – you name it, I’ve tried it, and ultimately, I have stopped using it. But this new tool I’ve found is amazing.
I use my computer for just about everything, so when I saw that my friend had a mini-calendar on her computer’s desktop, complete with a to-do list and an event list, I just had to ask where she got it. It’s so tiny too, very unobtrusive, and it’s got neat little features – the best part is, it’s free!
check this link out, you just might like it!