grace13

I have a lot of anger towards my in laws. Most of the anger stemmed from our wedding. My mother-in-law promised us money for the wedding and throughout the planning process never gave us the money so we ended up spending some of our savings and ended up cutting back on a lot of things (not that it was a bad thing) because of it. During the whole planning process she was uninterested in what we were doing and the whole wedding became about the grandkids (from his brother’s and sister) rather than about us. His sister also made the wedding about her kid by putting him to sleep during pictures and then later complaining about the fact that he was not in any pictures. She wanted our photographer to wait until her son woke up before taking our family picture even though we were only a half hour from the ceremony. After the wedding the only comments we got from both of them was that they were upset the child was not in the photos and my mother in law actually said the family photo was worthless because he wasn’t in it. Since then I have had many issues with the family and them not talking things out. The expectations in this family is that any event they have, everyone needs to be there and if you are not you are not supporting the family. The mother also is very much about the grand kids and not of all the brothers and sister, but just the sister’s kids. They will come up to visit and go to her house, but never even try to visit my husband’s other brother who has a daughter as well. Then blames the other brother for not coming to see them. My mother in law has also told me for holidays she does not like sharing her son and has made trying to organize holiday’s with my family almost impossible. I really want to just let it go and not let it bother me, but it is hard because they don’t give space and like I said, it is expected that most of our time should be spent with them. I have my own life and am very happy with my husband. I like spending time with them, but don’t feel like it has to be done almost every other weekend.

I just finished a vacation where I had to take 4 flights to get there and back. I did pretty good, but did have a little bit of a nervous attack when my last flight got delayed for problems with the tires. So I am getting better, but not there yet.

I have been going to weight watchers for a little over a month now and have lost a total of 12 pounds. My original goal was to loose about 15 pounds, but I have decided to try for an extra 5 so I have about 8 more to go.