Jen

A few years ago, I was in an online community about “having enough”—as in valuing what you already hve and not buying anything else unless you really, truly need it. I ended up quitting after awhile because I decided it wasn’t fair to deprive myself of things I didn’t need but wanted and knew I’d enjoy…Things like a new CD from a favorite band or a good book. Still, I learned many valuable lessons from my time there.

I come from a family sharply divided on this issue. My mother, one of my sisters, and my paternal grandmother leaned towards the shopaholic side and my father was always threatening to get rid of the Internet and phones because he thought we “didn’t need them.” I’m not sure about my other sister. I think she’s pretty frugal, but she’s also done some big spending at expensive stores and restaurants.

Where do I fit in? Well, I caught the shopping bug for a few years…I used to come home with or order large stacks of books and CDs. Sometimes months would pass before I got around to going through all of them! I would justify my spending by buying used items whenever possible, so at least I could argue that I got more for my money.

Eventually, though, I realized that it’s more rewarding to make a few thoughtful purchases and enjoy those before buying something else. I’ve also become more aware of the all the wonderful free or cheap experiences this world has to offer and the joy that comes from using and developing my talents.

I know that several of my family members have often used shopping as a way to dull the pain of their general unhappiness. In my case, I think I did it to add a little excitement to what I considered a boring life. Being aware of those tendencies and having a plan to combat them is the first step to not falling into the trap. My plan is to continue buying fewer things and start having more experiences instead.

I want and need a meaningful life. I crave substance and passion and living my values—not material things that I soon tire of. I also want to feed my creativity with new books, music, and movies now and then without guilt. I believe all of this is possible.

I took my new Pug, Max, to the vet today for his recommended after-adoption check up. He was diagnosed with a bacterial yeast infection in his ears and I got some ointment to treat him. He has to return in ten days to see how he’s doing. Also, Dr. K. thinks Max has some allergy problems because I mentioned his obsessive paw licking. Other than that, he’s healthy and in great condition. And he took everything in stride with a wagging tail and a happy-go-lucky attitude—even the ear exam.

Max made friends with every person there (even whining to get the attention of a man waiting at the counter), socialized with a Boston Terrier and a Shih Tzu/Lhasa Apso type, and tried to follow one of the office cats down the hallway. He’s good friends with my cat, Tigger, too. I think Max is what you would call a “social butterfly.” ;)

I’ve only had this dog since Friday morning, but he’s a very important part of my life and family already. I love the little guy so much. Max is awesome!

From my newly adopted dog, Max. :)