Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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heartfood's Life List

  1. 1. stop being avoidant
    1 cheer
    4 people
  2. 2. build my own happiness
    7 cheers
    1 person
  3. 3. stop being a nice guy
    1 entry . 1 cheer
    3 people
  4. 4. be compassionate
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    74 people

How I did it
How to appreciate my sweetheart daily
It took me
7 days
It made me
warm to bursting

How to stop taking things so personally
It took me
5 months
It made me
easier to live with

How to find a way to deal with my loved one's hoarding
It took me
6 months
It made me
disappointed in her

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appreciate my sweetheart daily (read all 7 entries…)

My sweetheart gives loyalty. She wants the best for me, for who I am, in every area of my life. Am I getting enough or what I deserve? Am I being who I need to be to deserve it? She asks these questions when I don’t. For example, when my family are overbearing she is there for me, BUT at the same time knows I have to fight my own battles (when I don’t want to). She speaks proudly of me when I deserve it & expects better of me SO THAT she can.

My sweetheart demands loyalty. She expects me to treat her with the respect I pay lip service to when I call myself a feminist. This strengthens our relationship 100x. She has taught me more about how to treat a woman well than either of my parents or any other mentor ever did.

appreciate my sweetheart daily (read all 7 entries…)

I grew up with a healthnut mother so I thought I knew enough about eating well, while at the same time dismissing advice I considered nutty, and all the while allowing my low self-esteem to lead to poor eating and care of my body.

My sweetheart is healthy but not nutty. She is knowledgeable about health, cares about her own and by extension mine, and is always learning more. She talks to me in a language I understand, pointing out that not everything I thought was nutty is, and takes care and pains to get me really on board for my own good. This area is one of continuous improvement – only recently we discovered how deepset my relationship with eating is (I’m too guilty to eat enough). Thank you darling for your care.

appreciate my sweetheart daily (read all 7 entries…)
Family matters

I come from a small and fragmented family, and I have put up with their demands for years. My friends, of course, were where I felt more kinship and like myself. And my greatest friend felt like true family before we were even a couple. And now she has introduced me to her family, large and welcoming, with their own foibles of course, but mainly the size and how they interact makes me feel like family is a breathable space again.

I still struggle with my own family, all two of them, but I have perspective from watching the aunts, uncles and cousins that come bundled along with my sweetheart, and seeing how she gives to them, feels about them, talks to them and shares with me-and-only-me about them (something I am still learning to do with her).

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