I’m crazy about this man I’m getting to know. It’s been about 6 months, and I’m just getting to the point of seeing some of his flaws. So he’s human. This is good news. I was beginning to worry that I was blind. Having been through a divorce has left me questioning my judgment about relationships, and it’s left me scared. So far I’ve been able to address the things that have bothered me, and New Guy was wonderful when I confronted him. So far, so good.
hopemccormick's Life List
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1. take second vacation to San Francisco
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2. Sell coke collectibles
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3. Make lasagna
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4. Eat at Stinky Rose
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5. Get full body massage
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6. Get electrolosis
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7. Teach college
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8. Fall in love
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9. Adopt a child
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10. Get my own place to live
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11. Have secure job
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12. Ride a horse
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13. Go on meditation retreat
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14. Take medication every day
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15. Get stable (bipolarwise)
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16. Visit Key West
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17. Take a cruise
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18. Sell wedding dress
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19. Sell wedding ring
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20. Compile my journals
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21. Apply to UC-Berkeley
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22. Weed my library
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23. Drink more water
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24. Find a bipolar support group
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25. Wear a size 14
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26. Visit Yosimite National Park
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27. Pay off my car
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28. Watch The Godfather
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29. scrapbook
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30. Move to Northern California
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31. Buy Grey's Anatomy Seasons 3 and 4
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32. Walk three times a week
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33. Sky dive
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34. Meet the Dalai Lama
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35. See Cirque du Soleil
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36. Bake a pound cake
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37. yoga
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How I did it: I disciplined myself about contacting five new people a month just so I could say I gave it a fair chance. It didn't really work out for me, but I'm glad I tried it. It was mostly a symbolic thing. Not a bad experience, and I may sign up again down the road. Read how I did it…
How I did it: I wanted to avoid destroying the relationship entirely because I wanted to keep my ex as a friend, so I went with an uncontested divorce. In the end, this dragged out for about 2 years. I'd have been better off going to court and getting it over with sooner. If he'd cooperated, the uncontested approach might have been a wise move. But it turned out to be a bad move in this particular case. Read how I did it…
How I did it: I checked out a book from the library so I could study. I'm glad I studied up on what the test was like. And brushing up on the math helped tremendously since I'd been out of college for a decade. Read how I did it…
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I have a job! I hesitate to call this goal a done deal because I’ve got a 90-day probationary period to get through. But I’m confident it will work out. Here’s hoping I’ll log back in soon to mark this one off the list. :)
I discovered a month or so ago that I’m well and truly over my ex. That’s fabulous news, of course. How can I move on and be ready for new love if I’m still hung up on that jerk, right? Truth is, there’s this guy I’ve been getting to know for about five months. I can’t say it’s love, but I do have strong feelings. It’s wonderful to know I’m capable of caring for someone again. So even if it doesn’t turn out to be LOVE, and even if he never returns the feelings that I do have at this point, I’m still grateful for this experience. It’s taught me a lot about myself. It’s hard to define the feelings for the new guy. Let’s just say that I’ve lost my balance. Falling is a real possibility.
