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-remember that we are all connected in some way.

-be helpful

-be tolerant and forgiving

-be supportive of your community

-think “win-win.” What’s in it for other people to work with you? Be cooperative and understanding.

-share your skills and talents with others

-get involved in life to have real experiences. Don’t stand on the sidelines of life by watching tv, gossipping, and staying in other comfort zones.

-see your community as part of the bigger picture. their actions have a ripple effect.

-look at the ramifications of your job

-be good at your job. Take it seriously and do they best you can. Keep learning. Look for ways to improve the team’s experience. Be positive, don’t engage in negativity (gossip, complaining, snitching). Stick-up for underdogs. Compliment others. Keep your own counsel. Be somewhat aloof. Be punctual. Keep the hours. Be honest. Dress well. Make good impressions. Be kind to colleagues. Understand the perspectives of colleagues, bosses, and the company overall. Be a role model. maintain personal boundaries. Learn how to say “no” effectively. Don’t be taken advantage of. Be assertive, not aggressive. Understand office politics and use it to your advantage. Volunteer effectively. Be proud of your effectiveness and efficiency. Enjoy what you do. Have fun.

-maintain the moral high ground by behaving honestly and with dignity. Do not seek revenge, be aggressive, act badly, hurt others, get extremely angry, be rash, and act without thinking.

-figure out how much damage you are going to the local, national, and global environment.

-Be good and rise above your base nature. Be for the glory.

-Be a part of the solution, not the problem.

-Make an effort to improve the world while you are here.

-Pay attention to what is happening around you. Take control, take responsibility.

-Understand that not everything can be as green or organic as you’d like it to be. Damage can’t be eliminated, only managed.

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Stay away from those who make you feel…
-depressed
-angry
-inadequate
-criticized
-like your ideas are dumb, impossible, crazy
-that you cannot achieve your goals
-like a joke, someone who can’t be taken seriously

Get closer to people who make you feel…
-great
-happy to see them
-like you can acheieve and overcome challenges
-supported and nurtured
-inspire new ideas and directions

A. Be a good friend by being there.

B. Never be too busy for loved ones. The more you put into relationships, the more you get out of them. Willingly repay the people who love you with time. Remember that one day, the people you love will not be here. Make the time today for them.

C. Let your kids make their own mistakes so they can learn important lessons about life early on and be able to bounce back. Don’t restrict their freedom in this way. Be there to help them recover. Be there to ask leading questions too so that they can think through their decisions and actions.

D. Respect and forgive your parents. They did the best they could, even if it was not good enough for you. Rise above your upbringing by being good to your parents.

E. Give your kids a break. Support and encourage them because it’s hard for kids in this world. They lack many rights. Give them positive reinforcement so they can believe in themselves. By constantly saying “no” kids can end up lacking confidence and self-esteem. Give them the resources to achieve their dreams. It is not your job to limit their dreams.

F. Never lend money or things, unless you are prepared to write off the money or relationship. Don’t give out things that you are attached to.

G. You can’t change a bad child, but you can change bad behavior.

H. Be cheerful around the people you love. It can be a simple change of heart for yourself and others.

I. Give your kids responsibilities. As they get older, give them more and with guidance. It will be messy at first, then different than how you do it, then they will master it.

J. Your children’s rebellion is necessary for them to be able to leave home and then return later. HOlding them back produces resentment. Taking it personally fosters guilt.

K. Accept that it is a good thing that your kid is hanging out with someone you don’t like because it’s a way to test our tolerance. It shows that we are raising them with less prejudice.

L. Be helpful, kind, patient, and courteous to your parents. Treat them well, pay attention, take them seriously.

M. Give your children the best of everything you can.