humekant

1) Quality not quantity. In the words of Kelly Clarkson ‘I will not hook up’.

2) I will not go out with a man who hasn’t voluntarily asked me first.

3) I will not date a man who isn’t sure he wants to date me.

4) I will not date a man who won’t talk about our future, or who I found it too difficult or awkward to discuss the future with.

5) I will not, under any circumstances, spend my time and energy with somebody who has already rejected me.

6) I will not settle for better than nothing. I’d rather be lonely than with someone who makes me feel uneasy, nervous, upset and hurt.

7) I will spend my time with someone who wants to actively spend their time with me, not somebody who is ambivalent.

8) ‘Too Busy to text/ring’ is an excuse I won’t accept or make for any one.

9) I will not date somebody who makes me wait and fret by my phone or facebook to such an extent that it is torturous.

10) I will date somebody who makes an active effort to be around me and do things with me.

11) I will not be used.

12) I will not be a doormat and settle for scraps of time because I don’t want to be alone.

13) I am worth more than all of the negatives above and will not forget them, no matter how hot I think the guy is.

14) I will date somebody who is sure they want to be with me, and can accept the responsibility and committments that come with that.

15) I will date somebody who wants the world to know they are my boyfriend.

16) I will not be a friend with benefits.

17) I will not give everything away too easily. Mentally and physically.

18) I will retain some sort of mystery untill they have shown they deserve to know more of me.

- He has told me not once, but twice, almost three times, that he does not want a relationship
- yet I hang on in there, giving him everything he wants but won’t commit to.
- I’ve been told 3 times! I know it’s not going to happen!
- He doesnt communicate or ring or text me very often.
- these aren’t the actions of someone who wants to be with you
- So why am I kidding myself!!!!!!!

He’s not good enough, move on, chalk it up to experience, he wont fight for you, or wait for you, or appreciate you.

Dear **

You want the best of both worlds, you want the perks of a relationship without the commitment.

You can’t have this though, it’s not fair on me. You can’t expect us to spend time together, to do things, to watch films and hold hands and kiss and have sex. Whilst maintaining we are ‘just really good friends’ and that sex is some sort of added bonus to this.

It’s not my fault you find me sexually attractive and that this conflicts with the friendship side. I really really like you, I would like to be in a relationship with you. And so I can’t carry on this charade of ‘friends with benefits’ because it’s making me fall for you more deeply.

I enjoy spending time with you and being with you, but now I am just paranoid that the whole time you’re just thinking ‘I’m going to get sex soon’.

You are not emotionally involved like I am, and I can’t just continue this casual thing.

Either you like me enough to be with me, or you don’t. No middle ground.

I just want you to like me in the same way I like you.

I know I have ruined it by sleeping with you, now I am never going to move into the ‘girlfriend’ category.

As much as I want to keep seeing you, I can’t because I am not
handing everything you want to you on a plate that’s easy to reach.

You’ll never change if you’re getting everything you want easily.
I am not just going to be your friend with benefits.

I am not going to see you or talk to you for a while, maybe you’ll realise what you’re missing. And if not I will find the strength to move on.

Me.