Believe it or not, I’ve been cigarette-free for five months and counting now. Yes, I used the patch for the first time, which seems to have finally done the trick. (This was the ninth time I’ve tried quitting in 19 years of smoking, the first one to stick for more than a couple of days.)
I’m in Chicago (Uptown), and am always into finding fun new smoke buddies. Contact me if you’re interested.
Sure, I’ve done this lots of times, both giving and receiving (via girlfriend’s strap-on). I think it’s a wonderfully intimate, erotic thing a couple can bring to the bedroom, especially in a trusting and close relationship. Once you’ve had one really good anal experience, I think, you’ll never go back to just 100-percent traditional intercourse again.
My ex and I did this a number of years ago; not a webcam per se, but a video camera, on a tripod in a guest bedroom during a holiday. The sex itself was pretty fun in front of the camera, albeit in maybe this gimmicky way that wouldn’t last for repeated sessions; but then I had to sit down, upload the raw video, cut it into something worth watching, then output it all as an .mpg. No wonder there’s still a lot more amateur photos getting traded on the web than videos! So maybe one of those small webcams, with the streaming digital image coming in, would be better for these things.
In 2002 and 2003 I wrote a series of professional stories about sexuality, including a column in a British magazine and a full-length book about Chicago’s swinging community; as a result, I ended up participating in a good five or six group-sex experiences. Now, granted, this is not for everyone – you need to have a nice, solid sense of your own sexuality, I think, to really have fun at such things, an understanding of both your desires and limits. It can be especially tricky for couples who have not sat down beforehand and clearly communicated what they’re both hoping to get from such a thing; and believe me, in the middle of an orgy is not where you want to be discussing it for the first time. That said…well, of course, my experiences were just as erotic as the fantasy you’re probably having right now about it. I’d definitely recommend it, if you’re in the right frame of mind. Oh, and I still participate in them, and even throw a party myself about once a year or so; just contact me if you’re interested or have an invitation.
When younger I did some professional writing about sex, including a column for a British magazine and a full-length book about Chicago’s swinging community. I definitely had fun during my four or five threeway experiences as part of writing those; although I think it highly helped that they were all intelligent people, had a good sense of their own relationships, and were able to clearly communicate what they wanted from it all. Beware: many relationships have fallen apart because of threeways, when these things were not in place beforehand! Anyway, you can read about my experiences at my website; just contact me if you want to know more. Still always interested in hearing intriguing new proposals!
I wrote professionally for ten years (1994-2004), including three novels, three travel books, and 40 books of short work. Now I’m opening a place called the Chicago Center for Literature and Photography, to help other beginning and mid-career writers who need additional resources to keep going (money, help, advice, editing, etc). Please contact me to learn more.
