After discussing the simple 4 steps with a counselor, and practicing a bit, I have been using this with my boyfriend and now with my family. I notice that it really works and saves us from an all out fight! Also, it is not only improving my relationships, but it is changing me. I am seeing things differently. I am acknowledging that usually others are not to blame for my feelings and unmet needs. I love NVC and would like to read the book about it!
jcancio80's Life List
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1. Cure myself of Candida
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2. pay off my student loans
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3. Reduce my ecological footprint to one earth
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4. Read and Complete "Zen and the Art of Making a Living" book
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5. Connect with my heart
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6. Journal regularly
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7. Believe in myself
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8. practice nonviolent communication
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9. live without working
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10. Overthrow capitalism
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11. See "Capitalism: A Love Story" ASAP
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12. Be a voice for Truth
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13. Protest
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14. Research about psychology and counseling careers
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15. Research about simple living and sustainability lifestyle options
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16. Research about life coaching
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17. Visit North Korea
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18. Do a temple stay in South Korea
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19. Go to the Friday night jam session in the park
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20. get my violin fixed
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21. Practice my violin
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22. practice the guitar
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23. Improve my relationships with my family
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24. Spend time nurturing my relationship with Ryan
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25. Stand up for what is right, in the face of unpopularity
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How I did it: I moved to South Korea and left most of my possessions behind. I left my car so that I could bike to work and walk to the store, restaurants, and fitness center! Less gas, less green house emissions, more exercise, more money for other healthy endeavors! I moved to a country where they consider potatoes fattening, let alone pizza and hamburgers! I moved into a free apartment that came with the job and have extra mo… Read how I did it…
How I did it: It was the right time in my life. It was time to commit to spending a year abroad. I talked to friends who came to Korea, researched it online, applied, Gathered Documents!, interviewed and was accepted as an English teacher. Read how I did it…
How I did it: 1. First of all, I was unemployed! A lack of cash is a HUGE motivator to avoid the mall in December! I had 2 choices, buy gifts and go into debt OR find another way to celebrate the holidays!2. Don't feel obligated! Refuse! If someone buys you a gift, it is their choice! Don't feel you must buy someone something because they are getting You a gift! Jesus didn't give the 3 wise men anything!&… Read how I did it…
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I’ve lost this battle, but I will win this war. It is Operation: Optimum Health! Well, the detox was not appropriate at this time for my goals. I did a detox diet for 3 days, and had headaches, whole body fatigue, and other difficult symptoms. After 3 days, I felt better and my sugar cravings were gone! I have since determined that I have a systemic Candida problem and I am preparing on treating this with a new nutrition plan.
Now that I have a full time job and a year contract, pay no rent, have no car, and make a generous salary, I will pay off my student loans in 1 year or less! My plan is to pay $900.00/month. I know that seems like a lot, but I am used to having a poverty income, so my lifestyle is mostly the same… maybe even a bit better! :) So, I will be debt free by the time I’m 30 and I’m never going into debt again!
