jieming

I spent a year alone on the side of a mountain. Of course, I went to work. But I came home and was alone.

I read a lot of Tolstoy, Kierkegaard, Vonnegut, and the Bible. I wrote about three hundred pages in my journal.

One of the hardest things was handling my thoughts and desires about dating again. Also, my emotions were out of control.

One thing that helped was to make a resolution that I would not even think about dating for a year. Of course, I broke this resolution. But having that resolution and trying to stick to it helped a lot.

After that year, I felt completely free. It’s like I was a different person. My thoughts about my ex-wife were like vague memories of a dream. I saw so much in myself: my problems and my finer qualities. Since then, relationships have been much better for me.

I’m now very happily married.

Good luck.