jugemh

1) Exercise regularly. Do complete workouts. Stretch, cardio, resistance.

2) Sleep regularly, and well. Be tired when I go to bed, and AWAKE when I get up.

3) Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.

4) Drink alcohol moderately. And for health and enjoyment. Not because of social pressure. Avoid getting drunk. Avoid all other recreational drugs.

5) Look like I care. Maintain a groomed and hygienic body. Wear nice clothes that fit well, look good, and express my personal style. Smell good.

6) Stay positive. Don’t waste energy worrying, being angry, etc.

7) Assert myself when the situation calls for it. Only do things I believe in. Don’t let myself be pushed around.

8) Take care of business. When something comes up, figure out when I have to time to take care of it, then do it. Don’t try to avoid things I’m responsible for.

9) Act like I care. When I see an opportunity, seize it. When I do something, give it 100%. Judge my success by the effort I put into it.

10) Cultivate healthy interpersonal relationships. Spend less time behind a monitor, and more time engaging people, being real, and deepening connections.

procrastinatress has suggested that you shouldn’t write your goals to appeal to other people, rather you should make goals that are genuinely important to yourself. Use 43T to get leverage on making the things you want in your life happen. The cheers will come on their own.

I think there is a lot of truth to this statement. I also see it as a false contrast between two separate ideas. I agree that making goals simply to get more cheers is missing the point of goals and cheers and 43T. That was my point in my first post. What I disagree with is the idea that you can make goals that appeal to others or you can make you can make goals that you personally care about—one or the other, but not both. Why can’t I make a goal that I care about and phrase it in such a way that appeals to other people? This is exactly what I have been trying to do. I started out with goals that were specific, measurable and realistic. eg “Draw 1 sketch every day for 3 months”. Add the challenge feature and it becomes time bound. I don’t know. I think part of me really did get caught in the rat race.. which was, by the way, false.

“Available Cheers” do not work the way I thought originally. Available Cheers seem to be given 5 at a time in 24 hour intervals. Also, 1 Available Cheer is given for each person that gives you a cheer per day in addition to said 5/24 hours. The significance of this is that regardless of whether or not I am cheered, I get an 5 cheer allowance distributed at regular intervals. Cheers are not a scarce commodity as it first appeared. I like this.

I want to cheer things that inspire me, I want to cheer people just to give encouragement to people to pursue being themselves; becoming their best selves. I don’t want to cheer just to exchange some kind of meaningless capital under the pretense of supporting people. What’s the point in that? That, friends, is the rat race.

In any case, procrastinatress, thank you. Your comments have caused me to think a bit, or rather to reflect on what I was doing. All things considered I may go back to my “1 time per day for 3 month” format for several of my goals, particularly those that I adopted a popular similar, but simplified, goal. At the same time, there is a place for things like ‘live my life by answering this question every day: “what would you do if you knew you could not fail?”. That is difficult to format in a way that is specific, measurable, etc. without losing something compelling about it, which I think is the greatest merit about that goal, and which is also why I adopted it.

Anyway. That’s all for now.

my hairstylist told me that the root of conflict stems from living in your head while your body is living in the moment—Peace is being here and now.