Ultimately, I would like to move out of the town I am living in and have lived in my entire life. Unfortunately, I am still in school and am not financially stable enough to make such a big move.
Fortunately, however, I do have a boyfriend that cares about me very much (and it is very mutual) who IS financially stable, and has a career after college. He is 23 and I’ll be 20 in 2 weeks. For a while now, we have been talking about moving in together, and lately, he has been more serious about it. He really wants me to move in with him. He said that if I were able to contribute as little as $300 a month (which is very doable for me right now) we could make it work while still save money (he is also very frugal and saves every penny he doesn’t spend).
I am fearful of two things.
1. I don’t want this to hurt our relationship in any way. I have heard so many bad stories of couples moving in together and things ending very badly. We have been together for 2 1/2 years and I spend every weekend with him. I have also spent weeks at a time with him and we are able to give each other enough space that we don’t drive each other crazy. I guess I am just scared that once we are “locked in” together, he will freak out and it will ruin what we have. This is unlike him. He’s a very rational person, so maybe this fear of mine is irrational. I have just heard some statistics that aren’t in our favor in this situation.
2. What on earth would I tell my parents?! I love them very much and would never want them to think I am walking out of them, making a whole bunch of mistakes with my life. I know the wouldn’t be in favor of me moving out with my boyfriend at 20. It has already basically been established with our families that we will probably be getting married. My parents are just fine with this, when the time comes. But I am afraid my parents will think I’m “putting the cart before the horse” (which traditionally speaking, I am) and do something irrational.
I hope everything works out…
I don’t know what happened between the time of high school and college, but for some reason making friends for me has become a lot more complicated. I attribute it to a lot of different causes such as: busy schedules, not growing up with these people, fear of judgement, etc. I used to be able to just walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation, but I just can’t get myself to do it anymore! It’s so hard! Even when the door is wide open, I generally wait for the other person to strike up conversation and that often doesn’t even happen.
This last year has been hard on me, as far as friends go. I moved in with two people I thought were friends. We ended up not getting along at all, and many of our mutual friends picked sides on the issues. The friends I was left with have turned out to be fairly fake and I find myself wondering why I keep them in my company because our goals, morals and ideas on life are so different.
I want to meet someone (anyone!) that I have something in common with. It seems that every time I meet someone like this, we are too busy and our schedules clash.
Is it possible that I am just going though a “dry spell” in my friend department? Or is it going to be like this forever?
I am not a dramatic person and I didn’t choose to give up many of my friendships. I just thought it would be better for myself. I have grown so much this past year and I am thankful for all that I have learned about myself and others. I would just like to get back in the swing of things and meet some new folks. How do I go about doing this?
I am not a fat person by any means. I am a short person though. Being a “normal” female adult, I like to eat like one. But with an irregular eating schedule, and a fairly stagnant lifestyle, this does not do well on my self confidence because I feel bad about myself. I want to eat a healthy diet, not necessarily anything major (although I am the carb queen, so I should probably avoid those!) trying to stick to unprocessed, more organic food. Along with the diet, I would like to begin exercising regularly, so that at least I feel like I am doing something with my life! I have tried both but I keep failing because I set my weekly goals too high and expect to see results too quickly. I this will help me!