July 31, 2007 in Acton, Mass. We are now legally married. We have not yet had a ceremony.
lynnorajean's Life List
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1. spend the rest of my life with Steve Livingston
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2. be a great mom
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3. be kind
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4. live simply
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5. cut myself a break
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6. hang with Buddha
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7. love myself the way I am today
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8. hike the blue ridge mountains
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9. write a cookbook
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10. write a book
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11. age gracefully
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12. notice beauty
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13. add joy to everything I do
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14. laugh
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15. learn yoga
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16. take me out to the ballgame
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17. have a girl friend
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18. watch the garden grow
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19. support those I love
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20. be the change I want to see in the world
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21. play every day
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22. take my time
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23. just be
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24. wage peace in my everyday life
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25. build the perfect sandwich
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26. cuddle
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27. reduce reuse recycle
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28. make a difference
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29. go camping
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30. encourage
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31. not care about being right
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32. Become a pirate
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33. explore my infinite nature
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34. practice random acts of kindness
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35. Post 43 photos of my feet in different locations
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36. Learn Italian
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37. 42
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38. Take a moment each day to notice that I love my life
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39. be a work in progress
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We talked and talked and talked about the hard stuff… the stuff you never really want to talk about… perhaps out of fear of rejection… perhaps just fear boiling up from the past. But we talked anyway, and all kinds of surprising things came up. As painful as it was to be so opened with each other, and say the things we dreaded saying and to hear the things we dreaded hearing, we somehow were able to come up with a compromise that we both actually really like. It actually doesn’t seem like a compromise to me because I am getting what I need, and visa versa, plus I don’t feel like I am giving what I don’t want to give either.
Compromise can be a beautiful thing.
It keeps getting better, even through the awfulness. Like a phoenix through the flames… reborn into something even more magnificent!
Yesterday my Steve and I went on a nice long hike off the Mountains to the sea trail, one of my favorite trails. I hiked longer than I have hiked in years, and felt fine! The trail was strewn with these catawba rhododendren blossoms. It was like a sexy celebration which was helpful on our KISS & MAKE-UP day.

