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It’s too easy for me to ask for help instead of trying to work things out on my own… especially when it comes to finances. My mother is always there for a hand-out or to bail me out of sticky situations… and altho she makes me feel guilty and she belittles me for asking for help, she always gives in to my requests. I want to stop relying on her but she won’t just tell me “NO”. I wish she would’ve told me “NO” a long, long time ago.

i am 45 years old and my mother controls 90% of my life… she has made it her life’s work to “take care” of me but not in a nurturing, loving, compassionate way…. it’s mostly financial and she has made me almost completely dependent on her… it’s a nightmare… i can’t do anything without being criticized and/or belittled for 1) thinking about doing something that she doesn’t agree with or 2) doing something that doesn’t quite turn out right in her opinion….... i find myself looking forward to her funeral and then i feel horribly guilty about that. I feel so helpless and all I want is to have a normal relationship with my mother.