I have been married for 3 years. My husband used to be so self sufficient before we got married. Is is no longer the man I married. He has gradually turned into a surely, moody, LAZY little boy. He expects me to take care of him. He makes dumb mistakes that hurts us, and all he can say is “sorry!”
He expects me to wake him up for work. He works the night shift. He sets the alarm clock for himself but when it goes off he wakes up and shuts it off and oversleeps. I end up continuously having to wake him up so he doesn’t call it sick for work. He doesn’t even really want to work at all and screams at me because he has to work. He’d rather stay home and play computer games and maybe act in community theatre at night (that pays no money). He feels his working impedes his so called ‘acting career’. Well he does nothing about this ‘acting career’ it’s just all talk.
He’s let his appearance go too. He’s gained 40 lbs since we got married and dresses like a bum and won’t shave on his days off. He looks so fat and ugly and I am not attracted to him anymore. I tell him he needs to lose weight and he says that there’s nothing wrong with him. Then he has the nerve to cut down my appearance when I’ve actually lost 20lbs since we got married. I exersise and eat right and I feel he should too for me.
He is moody and often screams at me to shut up. I used to be in a choir and I quit because he didn’t want me going to rehearsal nor did he want me to practice my singing at home. He told me he hates singing, and that my voice sucked. So I believed that my singing sucked so I dropped out of choir. It was only later that people told me what a nice voice I had. Now he denys that he wanted me to drop out of choir. But when I was in it, it used to be a big problem for him.
He is so lazy that I can’t get him to even take out the trash, much less do any housework. He wants to just eat junk food all the time and doesn’t want to eat food I’ve cooked at home. It’s like he’s addicted to restaurant/fastfood and junkfood. He will only take out the trash if I tell him to. Not on his own. He will just leave it for days and let it stink. He throws a temper tantrum when I want him to clean the bathroom. He won’t walk the dog, ever, just lets the dog piss on the floor when I’m at work. So our apartment stinks of dog piss when I come home. When he uses the bathroom, he gets piss all over the floor and on the toilet seat, and leaves water everywhere on the sink and when he showers he gets it all over on the floor.
I hate having sex with him because I’m always angry at him and his idea of foreplay is to tell me he’s horny. As if I’m supposed to say: “oh you’re horny, oh okay lets do it!”. He nags me constantly for sex and when he touches me, it’s always because he wants sex. Also it’s hard to be turned on when he doesn’t take care of his appearance.
I stay with this loser because he makes good money at his job and I need him to pay half of the rent which is high. I am bideing my time to leave (though I think I am pregnant). But he calls in sick so much at work he will probably get fired. Maybe that will give me the incentive to leave.