minh

My friend was just visiting from abroad and asked when our baby will be born…and I´m NOT PREGNANT!! My boyfriend said to that, “you can lose your extra wight easily”. I didn´t know he thought I had extra weight. Then I noticed I can´t fit in my jeans anymore ´cause I´ve been wearing skirts lately. It was upsetting, I have no idea how that has happened, but now that I think about it, yes, I have been eating chocolate alot lately. It´s so dark and miserable outside that I haven´t gone walking. So now I have started by taking my swimwear out of the closet and will go swimming this weekend and then regularlily and no chololate before Christmas!
minh

I had a kid at 20, I was very naive, homeless, with a crap job and no plans for the future(except not to have children!) and I had to adjust to the idea of becoming a single mother at that age. I read one book, this baby book by a Swedish writer Anna Wahlgren who is a single mother of nine children. Her advices were very down- to-earth and simple: lots of love, routines and not making the child the centre of the universe, but a member of the family.
I learned to cook(I got a flat 1 week before labour) and take care of the baby.
Later I got maried, we moved abroad, I studied and worked, got divorced, worked even more and became extremely guilt-ridden about working all the time and not spending enough time with my lovely son. Then I had a burn-out and decided to make it with less money but be there. I was home after school, spending more time with the kid and he got happier and more secure by time. He was never uncared or neglected, but I was away too much.
Now I´m at home, write and get myself together and know that I´m never going to get so work-oriented again, if it´s not good for us as a family.
Now he´s thirteen and happy, lovely boy, who loves animals and draws beautiful pictures.
I think our children are our children even when they´re 50 and we´re 70…I want to be there for him always, as long as I live.

It´s not about money, you can give your kids a happy childhood with little money, it´s not about material things, latest games and toys and clothes, but that parents really are there for their kids, in good and bad, always.
minh

I don´t know anyone who plays ukulele, a beautiful instrument. I can maybe get one made for me and then I want to start lessons. It would be just for my own pleasure and maybe entertaining friends sometimes…I think there´s nothing annoying in the sound of uke and it´s a gentle and soft and somehow sensual instrument. I have very stiff joints in my fingers so it will take a lot of practise but I´m conviced it´s worth practising!
minh