Anders

I was at this party yesterday, and amongst all the eight people there (I know, big party) a pretty hot chick stood out. I figured what the heck, as good a chance as any to practice my flirting skills.

Her age became a topic early on, as it turned out that she was 33 – a whole 11 years older than myself. She looked about 26, but I turned it around and instead teased her for looking more like 40. It was great fun, and we kept teasing each other as the night went on.

I haven’t had as fun flirting for a long time, and it made me even more keen on completing this goal.

This was a pleasant night at my folks’ home. Both my sisters were present, and we had a good time. Most importantly, my eldest sister was in a better mood now, which was very comforting to see. Better still, she just lighted up when I told her that I am creating a music compilation for her. That made my day.

I think I’ll have to start this one slow, so I’ve set myself a sub-goal: Talk to at least one stranger a week. Yeah, yeah, oooo, big deal, bla bla. But hey, one is insanely much more than, say, none.

71 people in Oslo on 43 things/places/whatever is way too few. Norwegians should have goals too! :)

Okay, I know absolutely nothing about dancing, and here comes the first evidence of my aforementioned cluelessness: What is the difference between salsa and tango? I know I want to learn one of those, but I get them mixed up. One is slow and one is fast, right? Which is which?

Such a specific goal that I actually need to get done myself. :) I’ve been living in this appartment for a year now without smoke detectors. Not good, not good at all.

Yes! I actually gained almost 1kg in a week by following the plan I had; consuming about 500 extra calories a day. It wasn’t as tough as I had imagened, I just had to make sure to eat by the clock instead of my stomach (I really don’t get very hungry).

Hurray!

I heard the most profound thing earlier today.

We’ve all heard the saying “seeing is believing”. What this guy was saying, was that that saying is utter bullshit. Instead, one should turn it around, and say: Believing is seeing.

What is holding most people back, and certainly when it comes to confidence, is their belief system. Once you believe something, it defines what you do.

I must turn my limiting beliefs around. Once I believe – really believe – that I can be successful with women (just to pick a totally “random” thing ;)), I will be.

I’m truly worried about my oldest sister now. She’s having an extremely tough time with her illness and I’ve never seen her as sad and despaired as she is now. It’s at the point where I almost fear for her life, even though I tell myself she would never do such a thing.

I want to help her. I want to take away her pain. I want to make her happy again.

But I don’t know how.

If you love doing something, and see a way to make a living out of it, just do it.

This is such a catchall goal that I almost don’t know where to begin. Even so, I have analyzed the most important goals I need to reach in order for my confidence to improve (I think, anyway): gain weight and improve my conversation skills with strangers. I’m on my way.

I am an utter geek myself, and guess that is the reason why I would like to date one. “Talking geek” with a girl is fun, so dating one should be even better. ;)

But where are they!?

What a truly amazing, and completely positive, goal. This I must do. :)

Figured I have to start exercising before i can exercise regularly.

There’s this new, cute girl at the local coffee shop. I’ve been quite successful at teasing her (yes, that implies flirting) when we meet, feeling that I’m getting some response.

My goal: Get her e-mail within the next two times I see her.

Here in Norway, you are generally considered to be some kind of freak if you try to strike up a conversation with a stranger. Most people go about their own business and are taken aback by any such attempts.

Anyways, I have to ignore that fact and just do it, as I know it will help with my smalltalk skills and in turn increase my confidence.

I always have stuff to do. Whether they are important or not doesn’t matter – there’s always stuff to do. This drags out when I go to bed. It gets later and later, until it’s really early, and it all starts over again.

However, it really is just about willpower. What I do at night I can just as easily (and sometimes actually easier) do in the morning.

I must force myself to go to bed before midnight in the weekdays. This has been a good week thus far.

I love my parents very much for everything they have done for me (which is a considerable amount, heh), but I have never ever told them.

I’ve thought much about this, and think some of the reason is that “I love you” is generally very rarely said in Norwegian at all (“jeg elsker deg“). It’s more common to say “I’m fond of you” (it doesn’t sound as idiotic in Norwegian, heh), but of course it doesn’t have the same “power” as saying I love you would.

Anyone from Scandinavian countries having done this? Or thought about language/cultural differenses in doing this?

What is regularly anyway? I seem to exercise about once a year, does that qualify? ;)

Gaining weight is much harder (for some people) than most people think. I have been thin for all my life, and are constantly struggling to gain some weight (which in turn will increase my confidence).

Lately I have begun to take this much more seriously by analyzing what I actually eat, and counting calories. I never, ever, ever thought I would do this, but I now consider it a neccessary (although highly annoying) step. By knowing how much I generally consume, my plan is to increase my intake of calories by 500 a day and take it from there.