nicossa

I am up for a job promotion, if I get it I am going to negotiate the salary. I have always accepted job offers with no negotiation afraid that I would ruin my chances. I am more confident now in what in have to offer and willing to try something out of my comfort zone.

I love children and babies and fit the image of “maternal” which causes confusion when I politely answer, “no thank you” to the (quite rude) query, “what about you, don’t you want children?”

It’s not an ethical stance, it’s not an aversion, it’s simply that I enjoy a child free life. In my 20’s I suffered the condescension of well meaning friends and family who said ridiculous things like, “You just don’t want kids now, wait until you turn 30…You can’t fully experience growth and adulthood until you are a parent…there is never a right time, you just have to let it happen” Gag. Gag. Gag. Especially that last one. Please, do we really want to pretend that reproduction is a mystery that just happens? Way to promote unplanned and potentially unwanted children.

I am now well into my 30’s and happy to report that there has not been a single moment when I have thought, “OH MY GOD! I FORGOT TO HAVE A BABY!” I have had the experience of seeing nearly all my friends go through pregnancy, birth, and then the trials and joys of parenthood. While I love my friends children dearly not once have I looked into their sweet faces and longed for one of my own. In fact, the longer I have gone down this path the more certain I am that non-motherhood is perfect for me.

Don’t let the world bully you into parenthood.