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Getting over my breakup. Talked about it yesterday with a mutual friend, ( a girl) who was on the other side of the fence, in terms of being a young woman, in her prime who got out of a committed relationship. I guess this isn’t exactly the same situation, in fact it was a lot more serious. However, point is made, that many hot women in their prime want independence, and do not want to be locked down. Fantasies of being a career woman, who has power, must be entertained now, as the early 20’s-30’s present a small time frame in which to This specifically goes for hot women, who know they can get into a relationship when they want. My friend also mentioned how her relationship became incompatible “when she was the guy” in the relationship. IE—having to deal with neediness from the other end. Again, another reason of why I, as a man, must get my shit together, and do my own thing! Despite the fact, that priorities in life revolve around locking down a hot girl, this will only be possible if I have something to fall back on, something to shoot for that will give me balance and stability. This is why now would be the perfect time to work on my own interests, and work on my game on the side. This weekend, for example, was a step forward.
1) Smiled with numerous women, received smiles back.
2) Approached and conversated with:
- waitress (7.7)(got number)
-hot, interesting girl (8.7) no number, because moving away to SF.
3) couple at bar. Was able to engage Bowser girl, and sort of wingman with friend. Friend didnt really get it, but it’s a start. Later on, got digits from interesting girl (7.3-This girl was actually really cool, feel like would be a good match for friend. Don’t know how I would be able to pull a Woolery, or if that even matters-but this girl seemed pretty girlfriendy)
4) Group set, no numbers—however could have gotten dig from short asian girl.

THINGS TO WORK ON
1) Make girl say no. Hot girl at first party, was into me, however gave me a legit excuse as to why things wouldnt work. That said, could have been persistent and chivalrous. Think of ways to get together, when those girls arise, its ok to be nice guy (Ie: I gotta see you again)
2) Get over fear of 9s. Two opps presented themselves, blonde with dog walking across the street, and hot bitchy brunette at party.
SOLUTION-memorize, preparatory openers to begin with-Remember observational approach-SEE ENTRY/NMP method (Openers, past memories-kino, close)

Just go with my gut more often. If I am in a situation, where my gut tells me something is wrong particularly, I should trust it and get out of there.

I’m 27 and still trying to get over a relationship with a girl that broke it off with me after a year, and thinking that its the end of the road, when I know it isnt, and I have been going out around my hometown just trying to meet new people, and it feels sleazy as I have yet to find people my age. Any friends that I have are in either new york or philadelphia and I am here, at home which is ok for now, I guess i need to perservere and save up money which will help me out a lot in the long run. like hannah said, just get an easy job and chill for a minute, you dont have to be a big shot although being in this art world area just seems sooo wrong right now, but maybe thats cause its gonna be a hard road to travel and I just gotta stick with it.